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Would have a (2nd) child with a sperm donor mess them up?

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fourlegstwolegs · 11/09/2014 17:43

I have a rising 2yo DS with my now ex, who is just the loveliest child imaginable.
Since we broke up at the beginning of the year I have been thinking through my plan B, as I really want a 2nd child.
Plan A is to obviously hit the jackpot; meet a lovely man, get married and have another.
However - if that does not happen I was thinking about having another with a sperm donor.
Would that be unfair or damaging to number two? Would seeing DS spend time with his father yet not have a father of their own, be too much?
Obviously I would hope to eventually meet someone who would be a father figure, but that might not happen.
I would not want to be the cause of a lifetime of unhappiness to someone.

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jackydanny · 12/09/2014 00:17

Could you have a second child with ex acting as donor?

fourlegstwolegs · 13/09/2014 19:36

He's not keen - he thinks it will make him less desirable to future girlfriends....

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