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Year 7 being excluded and called names, how to push school?

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DesperateMum112 · 23/03/2026 23:17

I need your advise, especially if you’ve been through this. My daughter started secondary school (completely new school with no one that she knew from old one). She was a bit anxious, but she made friends in the first week or so. She was really happy, but the group (4 in total) started to split. Not a big deal, as it happens sometimes.
Anyway, fast forward to about a month ago, some of the girls in a new group of 8 she joined started to make rude comments to her in particular. I didn’t pay much attention, sometimes it happens. But her “friend” wouldn’t really stuck up for her and she was hurt. Then one of her other “friends” from the first group started to make mean comments and invite others to mock her. Since last week everyone is ignoring her, won’t even let her sit at the table at lunch and now I found out that they are calling her Voldemort and someone sworn at her. She feels left out completely, everything she says is bringing someone to make mean comments and she is now “hiding” and doesn’t even want to try anymore. I spoke with the school, as some of the bullying is happening during lessons, they offered her student support and that’s about it. I’ve asked him to move her from her seat where she sits next to that girl, but he hasn’t done that. I don’t know what to advise her anymore or if I should move her to a different school. Or pressure this school more?
Thanks

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ohlookaflyingpinkelephant · 15/07/2026 22:28

How are things now @DesperateMum112 I see this was posted months ago

WorthyDenimStork · 19/07/2026 00:33

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DesperateMum112 · 20/07/2026 09:32

Things have shifted, its crazy when I look back. She still has her student support and somehow it works. She is now happy, no one is mocking her anymore. The shift has happened overnight and I still cant explain it, its like it never happened. She still has the usual drama, but she now has a best friend and still in the group of 8. So for other mums that are struggling with this, I think all they need is giving them time and be there for our kids. Dont try to fix it, just listen and be on your kid`s side. Of course, speak to the school if things are really bad, but try not to worry too much.

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teaandtoastwithmarmite · 20/07/2026 09:47

I agree with this. My DD has just finished year 8 happy and with her groups of friends but year 7 was awful and the middle of year 8. I let her deal with it with the offer of doing something if she felt I should. She sorted it herself. It helped one girl left but another girl she is fine with now who was picking on her in year 7. You just have to support as much as you can. Glad your dd is ok now.

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