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Bullying

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bullying about weight - advice pls

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kidsbythesea · 13/02/2011 14:43

My daughter is 7 and is a bit overweight (I was aswell at her age and so was my sister and we naturally lost it at about 11). It looks like puppy fat to me and I'm sure the same will happen to her. We have a healthy diet and she does loads of exercise, but now 3 boys in her class keep calling her fat. It's really affecting her confidence - last week she refused to go to ballet because she didn't want to put on her leotard. I've spoken to her teacher twice now who is taking it seriously but says she doesn't want to talk to the boys' parents yet.
Any advice?

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mommmmyof2 · 13/02/2011 17:57

Oh kids can be so cruel, and it is worrying about how much bullying goes on.My sisters were both bullied at school, my one sister was a bit over weight and yes it did knock her confidence too.

All I can say is keep doing what you are doing, healthy eating and resuring her that there is nothing wrong with her, and keep on at the school too.It should not be allowed but unfortunatly bullying does happen.

But she is so young and has the rest of her life ahead of her and she should not be worrying too much about her weight.

Hopefully it will die down and she gets her confidence back :)

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kidsbythesea · 13/02/2011 18:11

Thanks for that. I did mean to ask if anyone had any advice on what to say to her. I know she's young and who cares anyway what anyone looks like, but it's impossible to understand those things at her age. I find myself a bit lost at what advice to give her.

I want to tell her all this mean stuff to say to the boys, but I know it wouldn't do any good.

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mommmmyof2 · 13/02/2011 18:15

I think that is all you can say as she is so young, try and just say things like oh little boys can be cruel.But you proberly are doing that anyway.

She needs maybe a little confidence boost maybe shopping to buy a new dress and sparkly shoes?

But children do get hurt by name calling as they don't understand, have you spoken to any parents?

monkdelila · 15/02/2011 20:29

Hi my seven year old son having same problem as well as physical abuse. Spoken to head, she seems to think I trying to make scapegoat out of bully. His mum very involved in PTA. My son hurt and angry at being called fat which he is not and was also called a 'pedo' by the boy.

lovingthesun · 15/02/2011 21:48

I really feel for you DD but I think you should be looking at why she is overweight - she may NOT be like you & lose it naturally.

Yes of course try to support her, but the absolute best thing you can do is help her grow upwards & not outwards. Cut out the junk & give smaller portions.

FWIW there is a little girl in my DD's class who is 7/8. Lovely little girl, but unfortunately is turning into a little chubster. For some bizarre reason, her mum gives her chocolate bar at school pick up .

navyblueknickers · 22/02/2011 21:59

Do you have "before" and "after" pictures of you and your sister? If your DD can see that you were the same and you lost it, she may stop worrying it about it so much.

Hopefully you can then subtly reinforce the healthy eating snd exercise - dancing is such good exercise it would be a shame if she stops enjoying it due to some nasty minded children.

I hope she gets her confidence back.

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