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Bullying

Find advice from others who have experienced school or workplace bullying on our Bulllying forum.

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AuntyVirus · 31/01/2011 19:23

Hi I am looking for some advice please,I have a 13 year old son who is bieng bullied/threatened via facebook.
Over the weekend a friend of my sons told him that a boy who is in the same year as him at school had written stuff on facebook calling my son names and telling him to watch his back.I was able to view this childs fb page and see what he and others have written about my son and also how many people liked what he was going to do to him.
I kept my son off school today and contacted them(even though son didnt want me to) and told them about the situation. I asked if there was anything they would be able to do in a round about way without saying that I had contacted them.They said that they would,and they would contact me at the end of the day and let me know.
School have not contacted me and this child has updated his status once again calling and threatening my son.
Please can anyone tell me what I should do next.
Thankyou AuntyV

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RIZZ0 · 31/01/2011 21:33

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antshouse · 01/02/2011 16:13

Can you print off all of the comments on facebook and take copies into school?

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AuntyVirus · 01/02/2011 17:09

Hello I have printed off the comments and taking them into school tommorow,but not holding out much hope.

I have spoken to school today who say that they really can't do anything unless something happens inside school.

Aswell as random kids commenting on this boys status his older brother has know started encouraging the boy to beat up my son and telling him not to be scared because he knows he can do it.

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lia66 · 01/02/2011 17:11

take the printed pages to the police. i had to do this with my daughter last year and the police take a very dim view of it. They visited every child on the list that had commented or liked the status.

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AuntyVirus · 01/02/2011 19:48

Thankyou for the advice lia when i spoke to school today they seemed to think police would probably try to tell me to let school deal with it,who in turn cant do much as nothing has happened on school premisses yet.

How are things with your daughter now have the bullies left her alone?

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mummytime · 01/02/2011 19:59

This is so untrue! Well at least around here. This is cyber-bullying, something that should be covered at school as part of PSHE, and the school should have a strict policy on it (schools around here also exclude for drug dealing whether done on the school premises or not).
The police would also take this seriously (at least here).

You do need to keep a print out of the offending facebook page, and start keeping a log of events.

Good luck!

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AuntyVirus · 01/02/2011 20:35

Thankyou mummytime I have been keeping a print out and adding to it daily sadly.

When I contacted school to today to see how things went yesterday with reguards to them having a word with the ringleader I was told "oh I'm very sorry thought you had asked us to not get involved".I feel like crying again!.

I hope the police where I am (north east)take it seriously,weather these children listen to the police is a different matter.

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lia66 · 02/02/2011 09:28

AV since the police were involved, yes they have left her alone, as they were told inno uncertain term, contact her again, through any means and you will be arrested. They all had parents involved as police went to their houses unannounced so no time to make up stories.

School were worse than useless, we had to take our dd out but police very helpful. This is cyber bullying, Facebook are crap at policing this too.

I hope it works out for you, please contact the police, I know it sounds severe, buut whatthey are doing deserves this.

antshouse · 02/02/2011 10:53

Of course the school need to deal with this, its affecting your son's education. The head of year should be treating it seriously as if this boy is seen to get away with it it will spread and other children will be targeted.
I agree that you should contact the police and let the school know that you are involving them as it might encourage them to take this seriously.
Hope it's resolve quickly.

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AuntyVirus · 02/02/2011 15:51

Been to school this morning they have spoken to the boy who addmitted that he had posted things on fb but didnt seem too bothered about his actions.So I am going to get police involved.

School and I have decided today to remove him from mainstream school(he has sen aswell as several other problems)into a school which maybe better suited for him.Which makes it worse that these boys see fit to pick on a boy who they know acts and deals with things slightly differently to them.

Lia I am pleased that things are now sorted for your daughter.

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lia66 · 02/02/2011 16:54

I'm glad the school seem to be working with you on this AV. Perhaps he would be more suited somewhere he can get more support. Shame it has to come to that though doesn't it?

little shit bully hopefully will get a bit of a scare when the police turn up at his door. Hopefully his parents will take it seriously too.

Seeing what it did to my dd I would be down on any of mine like a ton of bricks if they EVER got involved with anything like it against any other child.

Good luck

3littlefrogs · 02/02/2011 16:57

Police. Cyber bullying is a crime. Pupils at my local school were expelled for this. The age of criminal responsibility is 10. As long as you have proof, the perpetrators could end up with a criminal record.

The school is being very irresponsible (not unusual, sadly).

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AuntyVirus · 02/02/2011 20:51

Thankyou Lia,it is sad that it has come to this but hopefully it will turn out for the best.School think it maybe a few weeks before everything is finalised for move,and they want me send him in for the last few weeks which I don't want to do.

I have a feeling that the little shite may not be phased by the police as I have heard he is from a family of arseholes hard cases,who are used to police visits.

3littlefrogs wish my school where more like yours maybe then my son wouldn't have to start again at a new school,but hopefully my son will enjoy school once again when this is over.

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3littlefrogs · 04/02/2011 09:38

It sounds like he will be better out of there and away from the bullies anyway. Don't send him back there - you can keep him off sick due to "stress caused by bullying". Copy to LEA and governers.

Matthias · 04/02/2011 11:09

I'm on the parent forum for our school and we had a meeting earlier this week to discuss the new 'home school agreement'. We decided that facebook/internet behaviour would be added to the behavioural policy as it does affect relationships in the school. It will mean that what the kids post will be dealt with in school if bullying etc occurs. Perhaps more schools might incorporate this. It would let children know that there would be consequences.

WimpleOfTheBallet · 04/02/2011 11:16

I wouldn't send him either AuntyVirus...I don't think a few weeks off with "stress" would be harmful...on the contrary it will give him time to recover and time to prepare fr his new school.

Im angry for you that it was your son who had to move and not the little shits who did this to him.
He's better off without people like that near him.

I think if you can do it, that a nice rest and some days out to whatever he enjoys will be good.

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