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DS1 Is 9 Weeks Old And I Am Not Enjoying It As Much As I Want To!!

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magnolia1 · 03/02/2007 14:40

Ds1 is 9 weeks but is still feeding like a newborn We have been through a bit, he had his tongue tie snipped at 5 weeks, he is on Gaviscon for Reflux and has an infection in his toenails.
He is feeding every 2-3hrs day and night, sometimes more frequently and it is really starting to get me down

I fed dd4 for a year and enjoyed every moment of it. Even though she was 7 weeks early I found it so easy with her and I supposed I just though it would be the same with him.
We have seen a b/f counsellor a few times and she says his latch is fine.
He is putting on weight really well and lots of pooey/wet nappies but he isn't content at all between feeds
With 4 other children I am really exhausted and he won't take a bottle or a dummy
Not sure what I am expecting really but wanted to offload

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LadyTophamHatt · 03/02/2007 14:57

ohh, magnolia...no advice i'm afraid, just didn't want your post to go un-read.

DS4 feeds evey 2-3 hrs too but i'm mix feeding so it's alot easier on me than it is you....

SmileysPeople · 03/02/2007 15:02

It will get easier magnolia.
I know so many people who've had 'diffcult' and 'grouchy' little babies who metamorphosise into content little placid 4/5 month year olds.
Soon you will be able to look back on this phase and say 'God that was hard' 'but it's so much easier now'.

Aknowledge that, admit it's not much fun, but keep in your mind that it wiil be

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magnolia1 · 03/02/2007 20:59

Thanks Girls, It just seems at 3 weeks I was saying it will be better at 6 weeks and it wasn't then at 6 weeks I said it will be better at 9 weeks but it isn't so I'm kind of worried it still won't be better by 12 weeks

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NotQuiteCockney · 03/02/2007 21:01

You've been through a lot, particularly with four other kids! Are you sleeping with him? Is it an option? Do you have a sling, or some other way to feed "hands free"?

I'd expect it to take longer to settle down, with the tongue tie, and infection, and all ... I'm sure it will, though.

NotAnOtter · 03/02/2007 21:02

magnolia - are you very pro breastfeeding or would youi try a bottle?

fishie · 03/02/2007 21:05

poor you and also big respect - ds fed every 2 hours for months but i did not have any other children, let alone 4 more. at least you haven't got to sterilise bottles, but you must be so tired.

TheArmadillo · 03/02/2007 21:12

with ds I hated every moment of bfding until it got till about 3/4 months and then suddenly it just felt a lot better.

He used to feed frequently and for up to 3 hours at a time (shortest ever feed I think was 1/2 hour).

Ds also wouldn't take a bottle - that was the only reason I continued (we had some problems for the first couple of months).

But it did suddenly click and became more enjoyable for me.

northender · 03/02/2007 21:14

I remember dd being just the same and wouldn't sleep between feeds but then she settled into a routine of her own accord (can't remember what age she was but older than 9 weeks I'm sure. Hang in there

moondog · 03/02/2007 21:17

Could you try and space a little?
I found a battery operated bouncy chair an absolute Godsend (and am sooo not a gadget's person.)
It really will get easier.

moondog · 03/02/2007 21:17

Gah,sorry about the errant apostrophe.

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magnolia1 · 03/02/2007 21:28

He won't take a bottle I am very pro breasfeeding but am happy for dh to give a botle once in a while to give me a break (if only!!)

I do co- sleep after 3am which is when he gets even harder to settle bu I am not really comfortable feeding when lying down so I don't get to rest at the same time. I am thinking of a sling but his latch tends to slip sometimes and I'm worried it would be worse in a sling??

We have a vibrating chair which he is in at this moment having a whinge

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soph28 · 03/02/2007 21:31

Are you're other 4 all girls? IME boys are much hungrier than girls in general. DS never went more than 2.5 hours between feeds during the day where as today dd was still refusing a feed at 12pm having had her last one at 8am- she eventually took it at 12.30pm.

DD didn't really settle down until she was over 12 weeks. She definitely had colic or reflux- not sure which cos it was hard to tell- and she would wake herself up in the night with wind! She cried whenever she wasn't sleeping for the first 3 months, was a poor breast feeder, wouldn't take a bottle or dummy and I thought she might be tongue tied. When she was 5 and a half months I finally got her to take a bottle by expressing for 3 days and only offering the bottle. As soon as she started taking a bottle she also started taking a dummy. She is now the happiest, most contented little smiler you have ever seen!

I am totally pro BF and had wanted to carry on for longer but she just didn't seem to feed well- like she couldn't be bothered sucking- and she would always try and then arch her back and cry and pull away, then try again etc. I sucessfully BF ds without any problems so I don't know what it was but she's great now.

moondog · 03/02/2007 21:32

Sometimes they just need to be left to whinge.
Dd was a horrendous whinger.
After hours and weeks of trying to stop her,eventually I just left her to it.

MaLady · 03/02/2007 22:04

Hi, boy things sound though, strength to you woman. Have found out with one of my ds who also bf like a maniac that it was probably partly due to him needing to suck a lot as he had severe moulding on his head during birth.... and sucking helps it back into shape, amazingly. Could this be a factor in your ds case perhaps? Mine had Cranial Osteopathy which was fantastically helpful and I understand is also marvellous for reflux problems. Good luck, perhaps he is just going to be tall!.
This is the place and is just amazing if you can get to it I would highly recommend any mum and baby going.

moondog · 03/02/2007 22:06

Ah yes!
Cranila Osteopathy deffo!

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magnolia1 · 03/02/2007 22:51

I was considering Cranial Osteopathy. Dh is not so sre. Is it expensive??

Will start another thread for info

Moondog, I think he is a born whinger and I do sometimes leave him but it's so difficult when they are so little although earlier he did whinge himself to sleep but only for 10 minutes

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MaLady · 04/02/2007 10:11

Magnolia, the place I linked to is a charity and you pay what you can for treatment in the form of a donation so it's available to all.

moondog · 04/02/2007 10:14

Magnolia,charges are standard (if not a charity) I think about £30 a session which is pretty competitive especially if it cheers the baby (and everyone else) up.

margo1974 · 04/02/2007 12:53

i am sad for you magnolia. i haven't enjoyed b/f this time around as much i was expecting to ( i am still b/f though). don't be hard on yourself

{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

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magnolia1 · 04/02/2007 17:01

Didn't realise that Malady We are not too far so will ring them tomorrow

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MaLady · 04/02/2007 21:22

Hooray! They really are lovely people at the OCC, good luck! I bet they can help you- Keep us updated.

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