Our bedtime 'routine' for DS2 currently consists of me sitting in a dark room for two hours feeding and trying to settle him.
He has a bath with DS1 earlier in the evening. Comes back downstairs, DS1 (6) trundles off to bed. Then around 7pm I commence my evening of fun in the dark bedroom. He feeds, I put him in his sleepyhead in his cot, he faffs, I cuddle, feed, put down, more faffing...repeat ad nauseum.
It's 9pm now and he's just gone down. I didn't BF DS1 and I feel like I don't know what I'm doing. The evenings are starting to get me down. Should it take this long? What if it goes on like this forever? Will I ever be able to just feed him, pop him in his cot and he'll nod off? I'm starting to resent the fact that it's only me who can put him to bed (for context - during the day and rest of the night I'm FINE. This isn't a PND thing or anything like that).
He won't take a dummy or bottle. not through lack of trying
Any advice or experience will be so gratefully received. 