My 16 month old feeds 2-3 times a day normally but tonight he refused the bedtime feed, just arched his back and cried. I cuddled him to calm him down, tried again and he did the same thing. Eventually I put him in his cot and he took ages to stop crying and get to sleep, lots of cuddles and shush-patting needed. Is he self weaning? I hope not. Apart from a 6 month gap in 2009/2010 I've been pregnant or breastfeeding since 2005. This is my last baby. DH is being really unhelpful, saying "well it was starting to get weird anyway".