Last night I fed DD after drinking - too scared to Google

[abigboydidit]

DD is 12 weeks old and has been happily taking the odd bottle of EBM (last one on Tuesday). Yesterday was my inlaws golden wedding anniversary so had a wonderful time at their party and drank a fair bit of wine.. The meal started at 8.30pm and finished about 10.30pm/11ish & I reckon I had a most of a bottle of wine during that time .

Fast forward to 2am.. DD woke for her feed but would not take the bottle. She was screaming and so distressed. DH tried and I tried but it was clear she was having none of it so in the end I fed her myself. I didn't feel drunk but I did still feel tipsy/woosy (and not just because I had woken up). Am too scared to Google and feel so guilty. She seems fine today and didn't sleep and differently/longer but am worried what I may have done

It is ok honestly. Not much gets into the milk. I used to not do it, but later on I read that actually it's not really that bad as not much alcohol gets into the milk. Best not to make a habit of it if course, but I'm sure she'll be fine.

You haven't done anything to her. If you made a habit of it then yes the small amount of alcohol she would receive each feed certainly wouldn't do her any good but by the time you fed her (3 hours after you stopped drinking) your body would have processed some of the alchol anyway and only a small amount is transmitted. Greatest risk would have been you falling asleep and squashing her because you'd had a drink. Obviously that wasn't a problem.
Don't beat yourself up about this. You'd made a plan and it didn't work. Now you know that you can't rely on her to take EBM so you need to adjust your behaviour for a little while (assuming you weren't planning regular drinking sessions anyway) but you havent hurt your baby.

Ok, so I may have got that bit wrong... Basically it does pass into your milk, but the concentrations in the milk compared to what you would drink for instance are very small, so the volume and percentage would be very low... 0.5% or something like that... Anyway if you are not blind drunk and it is an emergency it may be ok just the once, that is sort of how my midwife explained it to me after a similar thing happened to me once - morning after the night before and dd wouldn't take bottle etc.

She will be fine - I did this too. A tiny bit if alcohol from your milk once in a blue moon will not make a difference. If you were dong this every night it would be a different story. But you're not. So don't beat yourself up!

this article explains it well, and is not scary!

Thanks everyone. I just feel so terrible - plus I have a hangover thrown in so everything seems so much worse. All those months abstinence, I had forgotten how rubbish you feel the next day.

last time you had a hangover you didn't have a little wee person demanding you deal with their every need. Makes it much worse. How is dh?

Alas, I did. DS is 23 months! Clearly I never learn.. DH is full of the joys of spring . Guess he isn't as out of practice as I am