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Going to wedding- what if I leak!!!

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Mampig · 04/08/2011 00:28

Hey all! In 3 weeks I'm going to a family wedding- necessity more than desire. I can only take my baby (8 weeks by then) to the ceremony and not to reception-( don't ask!!). I'm currently trying to build a store of ebm - not very successfully mind u- for when I am away. My question is how do I prevent unsightly leaks on the day!! I'm not very good at expressing and had thought about taking a pump with me but if I'm not good at it then will dc not feeding a) affect my supply? b) make me leak everywhere as I'm not draining the breast well enough??? Sorry- hope u can understand what I mean?? ( just v tired!!)

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orchidee · 04/08/2011 08:44

use breast pads to collect leaks and take spares with you so you can change them as required

or

just go to the part your baby can attend

simples!

JiltedJohnsJulie · 04/08/2011 09:07

Agree with Mampig, and feel its a little too much for the bride and groom to expect an 8 week old baby to be away from her mother for so long. We didn't have children at our wedding but bfing newborns are completely different to rampaging toddlers.

MrsMumf · 04/08/2011 09:46

Hi Mampig, I was a bridesmaid last week and leaked in spectacular fashion because I didn't have a chance to change pads etc. Would highly recommend taking a cardigan to cover any accidents that do occur. You should be grand though with the above advice.

Enjoy!

orchidee · 04/08/2011 09:49

(Personally I wouldn't go to the bit my baby wouldn't go to but didn't want to seem OTT or try to influence you. Now others have posted I shall be honest about that!)

buttonmoon78 · 04/08/2011 13:17

I agree - I'm a bit Hmm at not allowing a bf newborn (or any newborn for that matter). As someone else said, a rampaging toddler is another story but a tiny baby?

I'm a leaker and not a good expresser so I'd be investigating which are the pads with the most absorbency (there's another thread on this at the mo) and taking the pump for when you get too full.

I'm goig to a wedding when dc4 is 8wks. I guess I can be thankful that all 6 of us are invited!

MigGril · 04/08/2011 13:26

I'd agree with everyone else, I'd only go to the bit I could take the baby. An 8week old would be hard to leave. I couldn't have left DD at that age as she needed feeding to much espicaly in the evening. DS I could have left for a few hours but not much longer, both are bottle reufesers.

You'll need to express at this early age to so woun't be much fun for you.

Incapinka · 04/08/2011 19:02

I am a leaker and find the lansinoh breast pads the best...

JiltedJohnsJulie · 04/08/2011 19:14

Agree with Incapinka, have you tried the Lanisoh ones?

bilblio · 04/08/2011 19:16

Agree with everyone else, change pads regularly, I leaked a lot and Lansinoh and tommee tippee were the best (I'd guess they were identical.)

I think I'd also be just going to the part my baby could attend too... when she was 8 weeks old I'd have probably been grateful for a reason to escape the wedding early. :o

TheRealMBJ · 04/08/2011 22:04

I personally wouldn't go to the reception if they aren't allowing my baby to attend. If I had to go, Iwould ask whoever is looking after my baby to be close by so that I could feed him when needed and then go back to the reception.

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Mampig · 04/08/2011 22:10

Thanks everyone! I think I'll just take him with me and sod what they say!!

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TheRealMBJ · 04/08/2011 22:12

Good on you! Smile

What are they going to say anyway? Leave him outside?

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Mampig · 05/08/2011 00:18

Ha ha! Just got a very unsupportive extended family with regards bf!! Its not the norm at all, and I know I shouldn't let it get to me, but I hate being centre of any bitching... and believe me, they'll be bitching!! But feck it, they're just jealous imo!!!

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 05/08/2011 08:55

How could they not be jealous when you've got such a lovely LO Grin. Hope you have a lovely time.

orchidee · 05/08/2011 09:20

I think the BF is a bit of a red herring. Even if the baby were 100% bottle-fed, it's still a very young age for you to be separated for what I'm guessing would be most of the day (ceremony ending mid-afternoon, reception ending around midnight?

buttonmoon78 · 05/08/2011 11:15

I agree orchidee. 8 wks is still newborn. A newborn's place is with it's parents as far as possible.

Even if we were invited to a childfree wedding, I would expect ds to be welcome even if the older dcs were not. Otherwise I don't think I'd be going. I so would not enjoy a wedding where I'd be wondering how he was doing and in pain because I couldn't feed (and I can never express terribly successfully so I would be full again within half an hour!).

Take him with you OP but be prepared for comments. I'm also a bit sad that you have such a fight on your hands re bf. It's hard enough to get going without having that added pressure.

5littleducks · 05/08/2011 18:48

Good for you - I bet they won't even notice he/she is there. You are a much better person than I am, I would be boycotting it on principle.

As an added incentive, I would be very concerned about you becoming engorged if you are not draining the breast properly through expressing on the day. The last thing you want is to get mastitis.

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