So good to read the thread and feel a bit less alone in all this pregnancy/birth stuff. I know that's kind of the whole point of this thread, but I think you really feel the benefit when you're feeling fed up and don't want to whinge in RL! Good to read other people's funny stories too.
I had a horrible 'consultant' appointment on Thursday which had been delayed. I put consultant in inverted commas because what actually happened was that I waited on my own in a room for 40 minutes, and then in the place of the consultant who had been highly recommended by my midwife, I had a trainee who hadn't looked through my labour notes from the last birth and who was so patronising I feel about 10 times worse than I did before the appointment. She made me out to be some sort of a charlatan when she asked what was so traumatic about my last birth, and kept saying, "there's nothing about that in your notes" and then looking through again, reluctantly finding it, and then saying "oh, yeeees" and moving on. She told me all sorts of things hadn't happened, such as mis-sited epidural at hour 31, misjudged VE by 3cm on arrival, delay in finding anaesthetist after that failed epidural, and then when she saw them was totally unapologetic about suggesting that I'd been imagining things! It wasn't like I was complaining about what had happened anyway, I was just meant to be there to discuss ways of planning the birth in light of my last and the after-effects of it. Sorry if tmi, but she even asked me how I was sure that my bladder incontinence from last time isn't just discharge 
. Is it me or isn't that just totally obvious?! Then she told me off for not having gone to a physio about it earlier, saying "wouldn't it have been a much better idea to get this sorted out before you fell pregnant again?". I felt about 6 years old. And I didn't ever know that you could go to a physio for it - nobody told me 
The only thing she seemed to want to do was look at my varicose veins (I think she suspected they were imaginary too) and then, aghast (don't they see this stuff all the time?), warn me about DVT, and book me in for a GTT because of my PCOS. Both totally unrelated to the point of the consultation, and the sorts of 'stock' things which I guess a trainee likes to do because they're so textbook.
Anyway, I left feeling much, much worse, and after being very confident of the care in my hospital last time (at least personality-wise they were all extremely decent) I've got a whole new set of fears of being made to feel awful by someone like her.
Sorry to rant, I just had to offload that. I bet nobody's got this far 
On a nicer note, Raphael is a beautiful name, Lovetodance, and I'm wishing you both all the best.
Hope everyone else is feeling ok x