Due April 2007 - there's a foot in my tummy and it's trying to escape!

[EllieK]

new thread ladies!

repeating this in case it gets lost with the thread change!

TWINKLE you MUST see a solicitor, i was made redundant whilst on mat leave and was told they are not legally allowed to do this, i had to be offered something called a 'compromise agreement' which meant i got 3 months salary on top of my maternity leave money. may not be the case as they've told you before Mat Leave but you should look into it

and Yvie, i didn't get the email from you

Good morning all - a quick post before I fulfil my promise to DS2 and play computer games with him.

Maveta at where you're going to be staying and well done on getting your mat pay!

WCL - any updates - pressure is still on for you to be first??!!

Doginsantasgrotto - Welcome back and time for a name change methinks!

Eca - well done on your LO turning. I have been poking around trying to feel if mine has and I just can't be sure! Scan on Monday so I'll update then.

Claricebean - my sympathies for DS2. DS1 broke his leg at 20 months - he had only started walking at 14 months and when he came out of the cast he kind of had to learn to do it all over again ! At least your DS has gone straight into a cast - mine had to go into traction first to try and stretch the leg into a good position - I think that was the closest in my life I've ever come to having a nervous breakdown.....

1B3 - Happy belated birthday and I LOVE the name Zed!! I think his twin should have a 2-syllable name eg. Zed and Brodie?? Let us know what you decide asap - I'm loving your taste in names so far.

SOSPL - commiserations for back to wet nights. I think we have cracked it with DS2 as far as that is concerned - unfortunately he still feels the need to come and wake us, ask us if it's morning yet and try to get into our bed at whatever time he gets up for his wee..... Bless! I would not take a step back if I were you tbh - stick with it - unless of course baby comes NOW in which case abandon ship!

Bubblez - I've also had a very low BP throughout this pg and lots of breathlessness and tiredness. Also get the sparkly thing!

Katy - good luck on your house - hope they like it.

Twinkle - sorry to hear about your job and Ellie's advice sounds good.

CD - sorry to hear about you and DH - we are in a similar situation in that there are money worries and DH can sometimes fly off the handle very quickly. Weekends are also a flashpoint with us so lets hope this is a peaceful one - which will be helped along by Ireland winning the Six Nations, please! [Many fingers crossed emoticons]

Wow! What a difference taking notes makes! Off to play games with DS2.....

Thanks for all you good wishes, girls. DS had a good night. He woke up once at 6am but then went back to sleep until half nine. He is happily playing with lego with his sisters now, lapping up the sympathy.

CD - sorry about your DH. Mine is being a complete PITA too at the moment. As someone said, must be the timing. He's not even here and he's p*ing me off. Everytime I speak to him on the phone, I just get monosyllabic answers and he never asks how I am, which I think is a bit rich considering I'm up to my eyes in it. He did manage to summon up enthusiasm to discuss DS's leg, but still didn't ask how I was coping. . I know he is depressed about being ill and probablyfeels very helpless where he is etc etc, but you'd think it wouldn't kill him to remember to ask how I am!!!!!!!! Rant over. Anyway, hope you managed to sort it out with him. Men.

SOSPL - wet or dry last night???

good morning folks and happy st paddys day to you all. no guiness, green beer and rolling home with a shamrock hat on my head for me this year!!

i have been up since 5am- seems to be the starting point of the day and have beensitting making curtians for teh nursery - why oh why did i thinkit woudl be a good idea to make them escpecially and then have to cut out and applique on 62 white daisises????? i am on daisy 6 and bored.

clarice - big hugs to you. what a pigging thing to happen but if he is up and playing lego then he is on teh road to recovery. accidents happen honey and you are coping with alot on your own.

1b3 - love love love the name zed - it has mademe rethink our traditional irish one.....

CD - nightmare for you. getting a prnag is bad enough to set tthe nerves on edge with even more hormones around without dh then not being sympathietic and indulging you in tlc. hope today is as niggle free as possible.

i know loads of us seem to be having tiffs and arguements with dp/dh. i think stress hormones are kicking in for all. dp was meant to be "helping" with the first night of perneal massage last night. i was getting stressed abotu doing it - given we are 2 weeks latea dn teh thought nearly makes me want to heave. i actually can no longer reach around bloated belly and expando ass so he was going to lend a hand (+ couple of thumbs). i was there - all oiled up, reclining on pillowsd and despite my calls from teh bedroom - no sign. i nodded offf - he tore himself away from teh computer after an hour and we had a row. he then ever so consideratley told me that i could deal with my own ass in the future. nice. kind. understanding. he has now got up and its all picture and no sound in this flat!
we are meant to be going to his grans 101 birthday later - aye right. i dont think so. pjs on and i will be staying to do another 58 diaisies!

aint heard any more from dooby - will drop her a text in a while and let you all know how she is. she should be home and resting by now - but with it being st paddy's in irelad - she may well be out at hurling with her ds??

have a fab day to all i have missed out!

morning WO

morning

CD & CB - grrrrrr at dhs! Sorry to hear they are not being as caring as they should at the min. I guess the only comfort for you is that lots of us seem to be having similar stressess and it probably has something to do with not knowing how to help/not understanding what we're going through etc etc. CD - hope you have a stress free saturday lovely. So far so good with my dh, so I expect my meltdown with him will come in the throws of labour, perfect timing for a huge row! Great!

Ellie - thanks for the new thread. Great title!

Twinkle - forgot to say yesterday - sorry to hear about the redundancy.

Morning Birdie! - hope the scan monday is good news [fingers crossed emotioncon!]

at 62 daisies WO! You mad (or very clever!) woman! I know I just wouldn't have the patience! And ahhhhh at your dh too! What is with them all at the mo???

Hi Ellie and WO. Sorry you're in the 'bad mood with DH' camp too, WO. After my v annoying conversation with DH yesterday I went out and spent 110 euros on Clarins stuff to cheer myself up so some good came off it!! Little did I know how much I would need that 'reduce puffy eyes' cream by the end of the evening!

Right, muffins are baking for breakfast (more like brunch by now) and DC glued to Aristocats. Don't feel so bad now.

x post, eca, so morning to you too. Arguments in labour - hmmm. Was having a great row with DH before I went into labour with DD2. He did at least lay off while I was having her, but then moodily read the Guardian immediately after she was born. I can laugh about it now

yes WO, daisies? are you mad?

and there are times when i am so glad to be going it alone, it my have it's disadvantages but there's no arguments or other person's feelings to consider

Yes, you're right, Ellie. There are advantages. My widowed best friend says the same thing when she listens to us all moaning about DHs, although obviously there are lots of difficulties too. But it's nice to see a silver lining

WO, what number daisy are you on now?

CB - glad you got some clarins out of it. Now i'm thinking when our big row breaks I'll be ready with the credit card!! Ha! A lovely post-birth treatment might be in order me thinks!

Ellie - going with dh/dp may well have it's advantages! Have you got someone to be a birth partner for you???

Morning all! Has been a horrid morning so far - DH and I have bearly spoken a word to each other and it is all tense and yukky in my house atm. I've spent most of the morning picking tiny nits and eggs out of DD1 hair - Niiiiice! Bleurgh! Think DH is going to clean the car with her now as the weather seems to be staying reasonable. He did say the damage isn't as bad as he thought it was going to be; but I still feel so awful. Finances are really, really terrible atm and I just don't know what to do. Wish I had something expensive to sell ...... !!?

Mmmmm....

Thank you all so much for your lovely, kind, supportive words - I really appreciate it and it is good to know I am not alone in all of this - You are lovely!

Hope you all have superb Saturdays! .... and even better tomorrows .... special day for us mummies!!

.... and yes, katy - It is me who can do you a good lambskin deal!!

LOL at thread title btw - Any reference to my recent moanings by ny chance!!!!?

Morning all - managed 12 hours without mn!

CD - you've just passed your test fgs - its not like you did it on purpose - big hugs - hope the day gets better

Twinkle - I am with the others about seeing a solicitor - it did rings bells the other day but as you seemed so calm about it thought must have been wrong.

Maveta - room for 30 eggs on legs in the hotel?!! That would be sooo funny!

Must go - dh off to rugby soon - the boys are starting to moan already!

octopussy - LOL.. can you imagine us all in the little hotel pool at once? It would probably overflow...

Sigh - I wish there was someone who could take the girls are a couple of hours this a/n so DH and I could talk without being completely knackered (the only opportunity we ever get is in the evening after the girls are in bed and then we are just too tired. ) Might try a couple of people ....

Just popping in quickly to say Hi.

CD, I'm sorry you and DH are having a shitty time at the moment. Can totally sympathise as we were like this earlier in the week. I think the DHs find the whole getting near to giving birth time trying too, as I guess their feelings of helplessness and appreciation of what's coming start kicking in. Just hang in there honey as I'm sure things will get better. Can you all go off somewhere this afternoon where the dds can just run off and play whilst you and DH have a chat? Just look after yourself, don't worry about the car - we all have prangs (even the DHs do it sometimes) - it's not like any of us do it on purpose.

Hope you get things sorted before tomorrow and it doesn't spoil your day xxx

Thanks so much sweetie - you are the voice of reason! My two don't just "run off and play" unfortunately, but I am sure we'll try and talk at some point - we definitely need to. Totally agree with you on the DHs / DPs getting stressed and unable to cope as the birth approaches - feelings of hopelessness abound!! Poor things, they are only men after all!

Mmmmmm, both DD's miraculously asleep - opportunity knocks!!!? Wish me luck!!

Good luck!

OK whilst it's quiet I'm gonna have a little rant to myself and see what you think. My SIL works 4 days a week and has Fridays off work. She has a 2 year old ds (my nephew). Said nephew went to stay with my ILs on Thursday night and will be with them until tomorrow. My FIL is going away on business tomorrow morning, so my MIL and nephew are coming here for lunch. We invited my SIL and BIL along too, but they've declined as my SIL is 'a bit stressed at the moment'. Whilst I'm pleased that's 2 less people I have to cook for, I'm also a little and that they don't want to come and spend the day with their ds, and that they're leaving him with my MIL for another day. To be honest I'd really like the day off tomorrow and would rather not be catering for other people, but it would be really unfair to expect my MIL to spend the day on her own looking after my nephew. Do you think my SIL & BIL are being a little unreasonable? When I say my SIL is stressed it's coz they're moving house in a few weeks. Hmmmm.

Hi all

CD - hope you are ok and sort out your dh

SOSPL - how are 'dry nights' going?

Birdie - good luck with the scan on Monday

Love to the rest of you catch you later x

I agree with Emmymummy that the dhs are all getting a bit nervous now and that tension is obviously starting to show. I think while we are so aware of the baby almost from the start what with all the physical and emotional changes we feel, they on the other hand seem to lag behind a bit the whole way through.

We went to Toysrus last week to pick up a couple of things, and then to Ikea and the whole shopping trip was about 2 hours total. Dh was totally moody and stressed by the end of it and later on admitted feeling really overwhelmed by everything. Ooohh poor baby.. this was the FIRST. TIME. he had come shopping with me for baby things!! and like I said before, he´s been having a meltdown lately about the labour bag being ready.. guess they just put the panicking off right until the last minute whereas we all seem to panic at a gentler pace all the way through!

Emmymummy - how did this lunch come about? If you offered to have MIL and dn over, maybe they think you were offering to do them a favour and give them time on their own? Your dn is not really your responsibility, no matter how much you love him, so if you are not up to it you have the perfect excuse to just say you are really sorry, have to cancel lunch as you´ve not been well and not up to having people over. ?

Afternoon everyone. Eca, really glad your lo has turned! All systems go now then!

Oooggs, you might be right about us ending up with the same delivery date the way things are going. I am amazed that noone has had their baby yet. Love the names you have chosen too. I adore the name Erin but my dh is not keen. It would have been one of my definite choices but he is adamant he doesnt like it, misery guts!

Clarice, glad your ds is ok today. My ds broke a bone in his wrist when he was 2 by falling in the garden. He could move it all and wasnt that bothered by it so I didnt stress. Anyway, he complained overnight and the next morning of pain so I took him to A+E to find it was broken. I have never felt so guilty in my life . You are not a bad mum, they have scrapes all the time and there is not much we can do to stop it.

CD, hope you get chance to talk to dh today. I hate having an atmosphere in the house but both me and dh are so stubborn it takes a lot for one of us to break the ice. Sending you happy vibes!

Maveta, did you have a good evening at the hotel or is it tonight? Sorry, memory like a sieve.

Emmy, I am surprised your SIL doesnt want to spend some time with her ds on Mothers day anyway. Are there some other underlying issues perhaps? I would be looking forward to seeing ds if I hadnt seen him since Thursday evening.

Hope everyone else is ok. Cant remember any more now! Have a good Saturday xxx