November 2012 - the thread where Detective's baby arrives

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Previous ante-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1608323-November-2012-please-form-an-orderly-queue

Post-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1611078-November-2012-the-birthplosion-thanks-Peaky

Stats list: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1485512-November-2012-Stats-List

Detective So sorry things have stopped again you've done so well sticking it out, I don't blame you for going for induction esp with all the stop-starting. Stubborn detectivebaby

Well, my appointment was pretty pointless. Don't need to go back again, just seeing my midwife at 41weeks. They didn't even offer me a sweep.

Saw a different registrar again, he asked why I was there so I explained about IOL at 40weeks but how I didn't agree to it. Also mentioned the pains I'd been having and that I thought I was starting early labour.
Now being a first timer I fully accepted that the latent phase can be v long.
He dismissed it and said "oh no your not in labour" "you wouldn't be able to get through the contractions" "it's just Braxton hiks" blah blah. I hadn't said I though I was in active labour, just the start of something so i'd hopefully be avoiding IOL anyway.

He also said my cervix was still long and hard, how he knows that without going near my fanny I don't know.
The doctor felt the baby, followed by him. He said to her that I was only 1/5 engaged which I don't really believe, MW recorded me as more weeks ago and the pressures been greater since then. He then wrote on my notes that I'm 5/5th palpable?!!

He seemed a bit disinterested and just wanted to get me in and out. So then after the appointment the pains and 'contractions' stopped

I've had more show this afternoon and then this evening the pains and contractions have returned. In fact just had my first one that I've had to stop and breathe through. So still hopeful although think it might be another day or two

Sorry for the epic boring post

(Sob!) All the best detective. No-one can say you haven't done all you possibly can to evict this baby in the way you planned. I agree that you will probably find out why this is happening later. My unwanted (bullied into by medics) induction and subsequent EMCS led to my DD having the same birthday as the DD of the girl who I met in antenatal class who's now my best mum friend. The coincidence of the shared birthday has acted as a proper bond between us. It wasn't the birth I wanted but it's made me a lifelong friend (I'm godmum to her second, etc etc). The important thing that you'll be meeting your little boy SOON! Will be rooting for you. x

So sorry that you've had to make this decision detective but you will be holding your little baby soon.

fatima not surprised the pains stopped after feeling so dismissed. Fc things are getting properly going.

Am in growth spurt hell. That is all.

Argh Fatima! Just, argh!! So sorry about that oxytocin-stopper of an appointment. What has he got x-ray vision that he can tell this about your cervix without examining you?!

Honestly, why don't they listen?!

Well. Let's hope these contractions tonight come to something. Will be rooting for you too. x

All the very best detective - you will do amazingly no matter what xxxxx

Is anyone watching OBEM what happens next on more4? It's a programme catching up with all the mums and babies x-years on. Absolute sob fest!

Oh and on a self indulgent ranty note, dp is being an absolute twunt tonight. The absolute clincher: "none of my exes ever messed up cutting my hair this badly, it's not even difficult". Prat. I told him I didn't want to do it. He can sleep in the garage tonight for all I care.

mm tell him to do it himself or get himself to Shamir dressers

Shamir dressers?! A hairdressers!

I said last time i was never doing it again. This time I'm serious! I don't even cut the dog's hair!!

Oh detective I am sorry but fingers crossed you get to meet baby very soon.

fatima I'm sorry it was a waste of time after all that.

Right now I'm just wishing anything would start...I don't want induction and I don't want a huge baby...I really hope he's out by sat.

Sorry to hear things have got to this point Detective. As others have said you have inspired lots of us to be assertive about our choices and you deserve to have things your own way, but ultimately you always said you would go for the IOL if you were concerned about your baby's safety so if that is now starting to be the case, you are still making a positive choice. I am still sad I didn't get anything like the birth I hoped for but in the end the CS was the right thing for my baby and me. If I am going for a VBAC in future I want you in my corner!

Err MM he deserves a swift kick in the nuts actually. I am sorry he is being such an arsehole. Make sure you get a bed to yourself tonight and an apology!

detective you probably won't see this until after the event but i wanted you to know that the postgrad thread is preparing the bunting for your arrival. You have fought really hard for the birth you wanted but I am sure meeting your LO will make every second of it worth while.

fatima if only you had known you had an amazing see-through cervix you could have relaxed! He sounds like a tosser.

georgee that is a lovely story.

Snap chunky.

detective you're a bloody star and an inspiration lady! Good luck and I hope to see you and baby D on the other side very soon.

Just managed 50 minutes dozing in bed broken by contractions but had to get up. Going for another hot bath then going to crank the tens machine up and see if I can snooze with that on.
The contractions in bed were really hurting in my bum and making me want to poo, been to the loo but no joy. Paranoid that I'll push a head out while trying to poo even though I'm not dilated

Going to be a long night

fatima that sounds like things are going in the right direction for you! Feeling like you need a poo is exactly the right way to be feeling! yey for you!!

I'm tired and I really want to sleep but they're too painful and often to sleep Don't really know what to do with myself?
I suppose I could try sleep in 5 minute bursts bent over my ball

paracetamol?

Ah 4am, ace :(

fatima good luck. What about a bath?

Paracetamol and bath time then going to try get as active as possible. Hard when all I want to do is curl up but then the contractions hurt like a bitch when laid in bed.
Going to send DH to work and ring when they're closer together, what sort of timing do you think it'd be good to have him home from if you've done this before? Also, when do I ring the birth centre?

When I woke today I felt really positive and upbeat and now I know: detective is going to meet her baby today!! Also it could have been the great nights sleep and the fact that both children stayed in their beds but I thinkl not.

Really excited about fatima too. Was really hoping you wouldn't be forced into an induction, I hope I don't offend anyone here but I really hate consultants/registrars. They are a waste of space. Go girls!!

Another day of ignoring well wishers today. I am not usually this much of a cow. Honest..

When I woke today I felt really positive and upbeat and now I know: detective is going to meet her baby today!! Also it could have been the great nights sleep and the fact that both children stayed in their beds but I thinkl not.

Really excited about fatima too. Was really hoping you wouldn't be forced into an induction, I hope I don't offend anyone here but I really hate consultants/registrars. They are a waste of space. Go girls!!

Another day of ignoring well wishers today. I am not usually this much of a cow. Honest..

fatimai would phone now and get yourself on their radar. I would want DH around from 8mins I think, as you don't really know how quick or slow you might go! They will tell you when they want you if you give them a shout.

Good luck.

Xx

Fatima I called the birth centre after 5 hours and contractions were about 5 minutes apart lasting one minute. I called them back two hours later when they were two to three minutes apart, lasting about a minute and half but most importantly I couldn't talk through them. I just knew when I needed to go in. I couldn't be at home anymore.

It'll make sense when you get to that point. The timings (as you've seen on here!!) vary massively!! Good luck!!

Good luck to detective!!

Everyone else has said what I want to say already detective. I think you should be so proud of the way you have handled your decision making for you and your baby. You really have been (and continue to be) an inspiration and I bet you are an awesome midwife. Hope you have a great birth - my heart feels really warm that those cuddles will soon be here for you.

Fatima woweeee! Hope everything goes beautifully. Lovely to have everything moving after yesterday. Perhaps you should call the consultant for an update on the state of your cervix? If you could ask him about mine while you're at it that would be great. Remember those contractions are doing great work... And get dh back when you feel you want him there.

Brockle ignoring well wishers here too - couldn't pick up the phone yesterday. Mil had dd and my midwife was on call so I thought it would be a great day to have the baby. Was shattered though so rested till 3. Then went for a walk and had a couple of belters - but back to the usual niggles by 5.30. On the plus side it was enough to get dh cooking the dinner and picking up dd and putting her to bed so I had a whole day off - lovely.

Hey ho - baby vibes to all those that need them, and may those having snuggles on the other side have happy days with lots of rest and easy feeding in them!

Good luck fatima and detective :-)

Fatima - my paranoia about baby's head and pooing was the other way round

horsey is right - you will just know when you need to go in. They tried to tell me i didn't need to go in yet and that they would probably send me home, i ignored them and only just got to the hospital in time !