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TTC a 2012 baby - THE GRADUATES!! Pt 2

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ghosteditor · 03/01/2012 22:17

Here's the new thread ladies!!!

May this one bring some BABIES!!!

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Davinaaddict · 01/04/2012 09:56

Oh fools I'm sorry to hear about the upsetting remarks and your rubbish RL support Sad trope and the rest of the ladies have said everything I wanted to say. I really hope you're feeling better today, and can focus on how fantastically strong you've been for 3.5 years. On its own is amazing enough, but having gone through nearly 2 pregnancies as well, you really are super woman, and should be very proud of yourself. Stay strong and keep posting Smile

Good luck with the housework today trouble! Sounds like you've got it all under control though Smile

I'm having a bit of a rough time at the moment. Sleep deprivation is kicking (and I suspect the baby blues too Sad). We're really struggling with feeding, so I've had to decide to start using the nipple shields again Sad It got to the point last night/this morning when I was crying my eyes out at the thought of another feed because they are so painful. I think I'm just the wrong shape for small babies as its just like it was with DS, and her latch is perfect. But I'm trying to take focus on the fact that even if I have to use them for as long as with DS, then if it means I can still EBF for 12 months plus, then it's still best for my baby. Smile

On the plus side, we've decided on a name for her Smile Lauren Rebecca. It wouldn't have been on either of our 'lists' but we love it and she really suits it Smile I'll try to get a photo up soon as well - still not turned the laptop on yet Blush

Have a great day, everyone!Smile

TroubleAndFyfe · 01/04/2012 10:19

Sad davina, I feel your pain, well I did very recently! You have my sympathy...ouch! Sad there's nothing wrong with using the shields I don't think! I was so relieved when I used them and said to DH that even if I had to use them as long as I fed him I was happy as he would still be EBF and I wouldn't be dreading every feed which is a horrible place to be when you just want to be enjoying your beautiful newborn! Lauren Rebecca is a beautiful name! Sounds like you're doing a fab job! Grin

trope · 01/04/2012 12:57

Hi all!

fools so sorry to hear your DH wasn't supportive - that really sucks :( (Have to confess I laughed out loud at your comment about DH drinking away your money cooling his mouth after his super hot korma!!) Buying baby clothes definitely a good idea - and infinitely better than buying weight loss aids you don't need! Grin

Glad you had the dogs for company though! Hope you are feeling better now. I don't have dogs/pets, but headphones on, long walk is my preferred option when feeling crappy too. It's one of the best things about living by the sea; if you have a bad day you can go walk along the prom, throw stones in the water and lose yourself in the seaside - I find it so therapeutic! Just being near the water makes me feel a hundred times better. You can always vent / post here about it though - we all talk about our problems here and I think it's so lovely that we can support each other through the tough stuff when sometimes people in RL let us down.

davina Congratulations!!! Am so so happy that you got your VBAC! 9lbs2.5oz!! WOW!!! And I was worrying about fuzzy being big! Am so impressed! How is the tear healing? Hope you are making a speedy recovery! I love the name btw - it's beautiful! Can't wait to see photos!! Sorry to hear you're having a rough time - for what it's worth it sounds like you're doing brilliantly though! There's no shame whatsoever in using the nipple shields - it's great that you're persevering with the breastfeeding - I hope things settle down and get easier for you!

Thanks all for the lovely comments about my photo/water retention btw - I've been feeling distinctly blimp like so it was lovely to hear such kind & positive comments! I've been getting regularly stopped in the street by strangers this week, commenting on how I look "ready to drop" - not to mention doing that double take thing when I see a reflection of me waddling along and it takes a moment to recognise myself!! We had a mini scare on friday when my BP/urine check showed up protein and leukocytes in my urine - but the blood test results came back OK so no panic here yet! I am anaemic though - getting a prescription for iron pills on monday, am hoping I will feel a bit better next week as this week has been really hard. In the meantime, we have a shoulder of lamb cooking in the oven (which smells amazing - am so hungry right now!) and lots of meaty/green veg based meals planned for today!! I'm back up the hospital tomorrow morning and depending on what they find we may bring the sweep further forward - just got to wait and see.

In other very exciting news though my sister had her baby - an absolutely gorgeous little boy (well, not so little - over 8lbs, when they were expecting much smaller) so I am getting to coo over photos of my newborn nephew - which is definitely helping me get through these final days/weeks until fuzzy comes along!! Can't believe it'll be me sharing cute newborn photos soon!! Grin

Fools that furniture is gorgeous! Am very Envy at you getting a glider chair - they are lovely! I wish we had space for one here!!

ellie Shock at your big baby! (but secretly relieved to not be the only person expecting/fearing a BIG baby!!) Hope the scan goes well! Do bear in mind that one off scans aren't as reliable as regular ones - if you can convince them to do a few (have to be at least 2 weeks apart) they'll get a much more reliable estimate of the babies size apparently. We've had a few weird scan results, but thanks to fortnightly scanning we can see a clear trend/make a reasonable guess about likely size.

Regarding sleeping - we've got a bednest for fuzzy to sleep in at night and are planning on using the cot from the buggy (got an Uppababy Vista) for daytime / early evening naps - so he can be wherever in the house/garden I am. (Or more likely, in a sling on me, but you never know!!) We have a cot in fuzzy's room as well, which depending on how things go we may try and use for some daytimes naps as well (with me napping in my breastfeeding chair alongside him!!) so he gets used to being in his room. We plan on having him in with us for at least the first 6 months (and quite possibly beyond) but figure there's no harm in him getting used to his room from an early age.

trouble WOW am so impressed with your DIY frenzy!! Our house is a complete pit and despite our best intentions, we are just not making enough progress on tidying/cleaning pre fuzzy! Given that you have a newborn i'm so incredibly impressed at how much you & your DH are doing!! I feel so very, very slack by comparison!! We have a similar issue with MiL thinking I stole DP away from her (and we only moved an hour and a bit away from Surrey/Hants area to Hove!!) where in reality we both desperately wanted to move down here for years before we finally managed it! Sometimes there really is nothing you can say/do to change your inlaws minds about things I think - it's sad though, life would be so much nicer/easier if relations with inlaws were less strained/charged with assumptions! Good luck getting the house ready for visitors though - hope you manage it and they get to see all the lovely stuff about Hastings/why you both chose to live there!

bun lol - may well text you when things get going!! I have an android phone, not an iphone, and there's no MN app for it yet and MN doesn't run so well just on the internet on it - so may take you up on doing updates as otherwise it could be quite a long silence!! Can't believe i'm up next!! Come on fuzzy!!

Sorry if i've missed lots out in my catch up attempt - can't face sitting down with the laptop any longer so have to go now!! Hope you are all having a lovely weekend!

Kayzr · 01/04/2012 14:13

Hello,

Fools I hope you are feeling better today. Your DH sounds like my DS1. He'll only a korma and still dances about in his chair shouting that his mouth is on fire!! Grin I really want a glider chair EnvySad just no room at all for it.

Trope I wish I could do your mega style posts!! They are fab! Congratulations on your new nephew! Hope the appointment goes well tomorrow.

Ellie Can I rack your brains a minute please? I am measuring 30cm at 28 weeks, so not quite as much as you are but MW was going on about consultants and extra scans and maybe a hospital birth. Are you just getting growth scans? I have heard they can be over a lb out either way.

DS2 was 10lb 5oz and I never measured big for dates with him so I am trying to work out if this is going to be a problem or not.

Trope I hope the sorting out is going well. I love Hastings and all around that area. My Mums family are all from Brighton, Hove etc and I love going down to visit them.

I have bought 10 of those bandana bigs from ebay. They are super cool and can't wait for baby to arrive.

Ah well only 11 weeks and 4 days until the small cabbage is due!!

Hope you are all well.

MammaInTheMaking · 01/04/2012 15:24

Bandana bibs are great kayzr. They have been the best seller out of the things I make. I've made quite a few little bibs for PINEAPPLE (Confused) baby but need to get some bandanas made.

TroubleAndFyfe · 01/04/2012 18:29

Thanks trope! Feels like slow progress to us to be honest, it'll be so good when it is done though (and repeat!)! Grin picture rail didn't get done as the ceiling hadn't been painted so DH is doing that now and then we're going to get curry in for dinner as a reward! Grin I finished my cleaning so it is looking much better downstairs though it'll be a building site down here for a lot longer as we're doing upstairs completely first...we'll get there (and repeat!)!Grin
So exciting that fuzzy is going to be along soon, I hope to meet him when you're ready for a meet up with bun, no rush though obviously! Smile
kayzr and mamma I have made loads of bandana bibs, just waiting for the wee man to start dribbling now! Wink

elliebug · 01/04/2012 19:44

aghhhh i just wrote a mega post and it got deleted am having tea before i try again :(

Kayzr · 01/04/2012 20:05

How do you make them? I still haven't got round to using my new sewing machine.

TroubleAndFyfe · 01/04/2012 20:44

Oh ellie Sad
There are tons of tutorials online like this one kayzr dirtydiaperlaundry.com/happy-bunny-day-bandana-drool-bib-tutorial/ though mamma is a pro do may have a favourite! I made mine with microfibre cloths and cotton. Smile

TroubleAndFyfe · 01/04/2012 20:45

Effin' iPhone auto corrects so to do...why? Is so a lesser used word? Hmm

elliebug · 01/04/2012 22:25

right, here goes again!!

fools i think pet therapy is under rated, i have had, at least, 1 hamster since i was 10 and would be lost without them, they are the best, in fact, i will be getting one for peanut as soon as she is big enough to hold it!! (3yrs maybe)

trope i had growth scans at 28,31 and now 33 weeks so should get an idea of size. im thinking i will need a moses basket so baby has somewhere to sleep on each floor, does that sound sensible?? do you think you'll have fuzzy before this thread runs out?!

davina please dont stress about using nipple sheilds, as long as little lauren is getting your yummy milk im sure she wont mind, (ive seen too many stressed and upset parents at work cos BF isnt going just like it says in the book so high five for finding a way that works)

kayzr i am already under consultant lead care and will be induced/elcs so hospital birth, i was expecting a big baby that would be delivered a bit early (due to pre existing medical conditions) so i guess that makes a bit of difference, i have also found, after having bump measured several times in a row that measurements are a bit subjective so please try not to worry too much, i guess mw will measure you again next time and see what bump has done?? maybe baby was lying in a strange position, on the plus side an extra scan means seeing baby again, my fave bit of my weekly, all day hospital visits :(

mamma i also have a pineapple, im guessing thats the body though not the whole baby?! i was just wondering where you sell your bibs......

trouble i'm really impressed with how much you've done in your house, we havent even painted a wall in the year we've been in our new house Hmm

i have spent this weekend at my parents in leicestershire, i even stayed an extra day cos my OH wanted some alone time, fair enough i thought, i'd be annoyed with him if he was at home all the time suddenly, but actually, he wanted me out of the way so he could tile the bathroom Shock when we moved in there was a three tile deep row round the bath, not high enough for me let alone a splashing child, he's tiled all the way to the top of the wall so we can use the shower attachment for the taps now :o i nearly cried when he told me (i blame the hormones) i hope to pass on some of his thoughtfullness to your DH/DP's

fingers crossed, am pressing post

aBundanceOfTime · 01/04/2012 23:14

Hi everyone!

Gosh Fools was so Angry and Sad on your behalf reading your post! Hope you're feeling more positive about yourself today, which you really should be, it sounds like you've been incredibly strong over the years. Size 10-12 whilst pregnant is soooo not big, it's healthy and you're doing a fantastic job for your bump Smile Your korma comment made me laugh too Grin

Sorry you're having a rough time atm Davina sleep deprivation really is a bitch. I agree that nipple shields are fabulous if it's the difference between stopping and carrying on with bf! I really don't see why they get such a bad press.
Baby blues are horrible Sad I haven't suffered this time round but did with DS. I found getting out of the house everyday really helped but I know too well that's not so easy, esp with a toddler in tow! Talk to us about it if you need/want to, I regret not talking about it when I was suffering and think it was a factor in it escalating into PND. Also, if you feel like you're getting lower, talk to your GP (another one of my regrets). Sorry if I'm talking out of turn, I'm sure you're very sensible Grin it was just such a dark and lonely time for me I'd hate to think of you going through the same.
Lauren Rebecca is a beautiful name! Lauren was on my list but my cousin got in there first! It's funny, Elizabeth wasn't on our list either, she just really suits it. Smile Can't wait to see pictures!

Bandana bibs are adorable and very useful! I'd never heard of them when DS was teething and fashioned my own for him out of muslins folded diagonally - I like to think I also invented them Wink

Sounds like that curry is well deserved Trouble!
Really looking forward to a meet up with you both when Trope's up to it Smile

Kayzr, I was measuring exactly to my dates the whole pregnancy and ended up with a 10lb-er, so think they should be taken with a hefty pinch of salt Smile

Ellie thank god that one worked! Grin How lovely of your OH Smile

Well, I've had a great day today. It got off to a great start whan I realised that Lilly had slept through from 1am to 8:30 (missing the hellish 4-5am feed) and was woken by DS calling to announce he needed a wee and had made it through the night completely dry! The pair of superstars Grin I had snuggles/snoozes with Lilly until 10.30 then DP took them both to his dad's for the afternoon leaving me child free for the first time, in what seems like, forever! Had a lovely hot (rather than a tepid, child/dissolvable stitches friendly) bath then went to sit on the beach with an ice cream and read in peace! Shock Grin

elliebug · 01/04/2012 23:28

bun sorry I missed you off BlushBlush did I miss anyone elseConfused sounds like you had a lovely day, really hope the sleeping through continues

TroubleAndFyfe · 02/04/2012 03:53

Epic catch up ellie! trope has competition! That is lovely about the bathroom, what a great surprise, lovely man. Also means you've now done more than paint a wall in your house! Smile
bun what a lovely sounding day! Well done to DD, DS and DP! How nice to get some alone time, glad you made the most of it! Smile

trope · 02/04/2012 07:21

morning all! Just a really quick update - I have sadly developed pre-eclampsia :( We spent yesterday evening up at maternity triage and eventually around 1am the decision was made to induce this morning (they wanted to induce there and then, but I was way too tired to cope with that). I'm off up the hospital shortly, where they shall be doing a pessary induction (in the probably vain hope of avoiding a syntocinon drip) and we shall take it from there. The last exam they did said fuzzy was only 3/5 engaged and my cervix was too high and hard to do a sweep, so it's going to be quite a shock to the system I suspect, but we've caught the pre-eclampsia quite early, so we have a bit of time to try and get things happening gently before more invasive induction methods like the drip/breaking waters have to be used... Will try and update Bun/the thread, but have no idea what reception will be like up at the delivery suite! (Induction has to be hospital based as I am high risk/have pre-eclampsia :( )

I'm off to get my stuff together/get ready for the hospital now - I look forward to returning to the thread soon - hopefully with cute newborn photos to share!!

babybrain3 · 02/04/2012 07:26

Wow what good catcher uppers you both are. I'm afraid I'm no match for your skills.

Hope things start looking up for you soon davina I'm sure they will once Lauren settles down a bit..

fools hope you're starting to feel better now after all the excellent advice and kind words on here. What wise women you all are!!

trope hope things go as to plan as possible for you and fuzzy!!

I've got my first scan tomorrow at 13+6!! can't believe I have had to wait this long!!!

DP made a spreadsheet yesterday (he is a computer geek) of the things we need and what we are borrowing etc... It really is starting to feel real now!! GrinGrinGrin

babybrain3 · 02/04/2012 07:29

Ooops, x post trope good luck-at least they have caught the pre eclampsia early. Will be thinking of you today... Smile

Kayzr · 02/04/2012 08:08

Trope Sorry to hear you have pre eclampsia. I hope that it all goes very well today. Thinking of you.

ghosteditor · 02/04/2012 08:41

Sorry to hear that trope but good luck with the induction! I know plenty of people who had successful inductions and lovely natural births so here's wishing the same for you! How long will you have to stay in afterwards? Good luck and we're holding out the pom poms for you!!!

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foolserrand · 02/04/2012 09:29

Trope Sad I'm so sorry you're going through this. As you said, at least it's been caught early and you can try the gentler methods initially. Will be thinking of you all day.

Christ, that means it's me next.... That's not on. Saying that, the mucus plug went on Saturday. Well, some of it at least. How much is there meant to be anyway?

Lovely that your dsis had her little boy. It will be so lovely having them so close in age, they have the best chance to be really close friends.

Bun your day yesterday sounds lovely. Well done Lilly and ds! We started nighttimes a week ago on ds' request and it's a great feeling when they manage it, especially that proud look on their little face. I was woken up at 5 every morning for the first few days so he could wee, but he seems to have cracked it now and goes all night. I find his sleeping is improved, no waking and coming in with us as used to happen every night. He's happier and more energetic and focussed as a result. As for your dp taking them both, how very lovely of him! Smile Good book? I've got the mn rules and the second baby survival guide on the go. May just steal dh's kindle though and read the hunger games instead! Wink the hot bath sounds like the height of luxury too. Bubbles? Envy

Ellie I do believe pet therapy works very well, my big boy is qualified as a PAT dog (proud mummy). Little dog is better comfort, but she isn't keen on strange people (previous owners abused her) so I can't let her try Sad. I was toying with a pet for ds when he got to 3. He would love one and is very good with animals and treating them gently, but he's a very energetic, boisterous child and I don't want to risk him accidentally hurting the thing. Besides, I don't want another animal right now Grin! Well, I do but am not allowed Grin.

Another kind oh. I'll admit to a dumb moment when I read and was trying to work out why you had tiles stacked 3 high on the floor around your bath Blush. I'm a tit, I know Grin. Still, sounds lovely now I know what you actually meant.

Kayzr my mw doesn't like measuring, only does it to placate doctors / tick all the boxes. Her words though, "I'm good at my job, I can tell if it's going to be a big baby." you could have a lake in there, or a mile of cord... The bump size doesn't have to be all baby iyswim?

Davina, Lauren Rebecca is a beautiful name! Sorry the baby blues have set in and feeding is painful. But you can overcome this, nipple shields are a fab invention. I couldn't get on with them with ds, wish I did though sometimes! Must warn you, am getting very impatient for photos now. Please have time to put some up soon! Grin

Trouble your dh has guilted mine into carrying on with decorating. (Thank you!!!!!). It sounds like you are really getting stuck in. Very well earned curry. We would be total finished by now if I was allowed to help or dh actually did the decorating! Still, he will be continuing this evening. Nursery is going to be painted! Oh, for those of you Envy about the glider, please don't think I have the space! Quite the opposite, but it was dh's only wish, so I had to humour him! Grin Tis a very pretty collection though.

Mamma, thanks for sharing your story. Those feelings, whilst so common, can leave you feeling very isolated. As such, there's always some comfort when you are reminded you aren't alone. Doesn't stop me being so very, very sorry you suffered though. Fwiw, you have not failed at anything. The orchid was going from strength to strength under your care. I do understand the wanting to please, finding acceptance thing though. My situation was borne from over bearing parents. I wasn't allowed to grow up or make many of my own choices (my mother chose my gcse options). Add that to a little bullying for being bit bigger than the other girls and you have ideal conditions for an eating disorder.

I've been feeling like something of a twat for posting on Friday night, don't like sharing as am rather ashamed of it all, but I needed somewhere to vent or I could see where I was heading. Thank you all again for your amazingly kind words, you've had me in tears. Dh was much more supportive on Saturday, I don't think he quite realised how badly I'd been affected on Friday (delicate soul, me!) and, in the rush to get ready and go out, he just didn't think. He's also been under a lot of stress at work the last few days. Potentially about to lose our biggest client. He doesn't go out often and really needed to let his hair down so I probably down played it a bit too.

I have given up cheese and chocolate to quiet that awful feeling, but am much more positive about things again. It's hard not to be, just one look at ds and I don't want to be ill. I can't be. He deserves a healthy mum and a good role model. I intend to be both. Actually, ds has a date today. He's going on a picnic with his best friend. He is so excited! Am planning lots of yummy treats for them (and her mum and I). The only problem is he is adamant he's taking the big dog because "Cromwell is my best friend tooooooooooo mummy". His little friend is terrified of dogs Hmm.

Ok, think that's enough. I'm painfully tired as this whole little saga has stopped me sleeping properly. SadAngry Hoping the pure exhaustion I'm feeling now coupled with an afternoon of picnic, park and feeding the scary huge fish (most children want to feed the ducks, not my ds Grin) will put me to sleep as soon as he's in bed. Certainly looking hopeful right now! Really going now, need to find a picnic blanket. There are 3 in this house. I only want 1!

Have a good day all! Trope I will be checking in all day in the hopes you are able to update Bun or the thread yourself. Wishing you the very best of luck and hope it's an easy and quick day with wonderful Fuzzy cuddles at the end of it.

foolserrand · 02/04/2012 09:31

Bugger me that was long Blush. Sorry to anyone who bothered to read all that drivel! Grin

TroubleAndFyfe · 02/04/2012 09:53

OMG trope! Not ideal circumstances I realise but fuzzy is coming! How exciting! I hope all goes as smoothly as possible for you all. Fyfe was 5/5 palpable (not at all engaged) at the exam I had a couple of days before he was born so I guess they can move quite quickly! I'll be checking in often. Smile
Excellent news fools on the decorating! Glad you're feeling a bit better and hope you continue to vent here when you need to! I think you win the catch up prize too!
Yay for the scan babybrain! That is such a long time to wait!

aBundanceOfTime · 02/04/2012 11:09

Hi! I have read everyone's posts but don't have the time for a proper update atm, just wanted to check in with a Trope update Wink She has had her first pessary and was instructed to have a walk to help things get moving along so, they have headed down to a restaurant for a fry up Grin

Will keep you all updated as I am Smile

MammaInTheMaking · 02/04/2012 11:28

Ellie and Kayzr i sell my bibs on my little facebook shop, although i've not been very active on there recently because things have been so crazy with house renovations and life in general. I'm still making lots though. I find it so theraputic and they're quite quick to do, so very satisfying. Kayzr - i didn't actually do a tutorial, i kind of just figured it out.... I think i researched how to make bibs and then saw how popular these bandana ones were, so then I drew up a template and made one. The first few were a bit dodgy but then i tweaked it and now i have a pretty good design. :) I do 2 sizes of normal bibs, 1 dribble bib and a burp cloth for over the shoulder. Should really expand my range but i'm a bit of a "i can't be bothered to do it til I want to do it" kind of person...

Fools I'm so pleased to hear you're feeling better and you've seen what's important here and that's your children and family and YOURSELF. Whenever I dip a bit and come out ok a couple of days later I often look back and cringe a bit. But it doesn't matter because they were genuine feelings at that moment in time. Talking is the most important thing, and a big lesson i've learnt. I can also echo the overbearing parents thing. Mine also picked my GCSEs, and A Levels AND degree!!!!! When i graduated and moved home they bought a flat and I rented it from them for a while. I went in thinking it was the best thing ever! But when they just let themselves in whenever they liked, tidied up while i was at work and could tell when i'd not been back at the flat for a night because everything was how they'd left it the day before (they'd text to ask where I was!) i knew I was reaching breaking point. I moved out in the middle of my melt down. It was hard but the best thing I could have done. They've now realised that i'm an adult and they'll get an awful lot more out of our relationship if they just treat me NORMALLY!

Trope very sorry to hear about the pre eclampsia but hooray that Fuzzy is on his way. I hope things go as smoothly as they can do, and am really looking forward to an update. This thread has been so exciting, we're almost on baby #5!!

Pineapple has been on another mission this weekend, but we're still friends. There were a few moments where I was jumping out of my seat because some elbow or knee was protruding out of my belly but DP was on hand all weekend to give it a good rub. :o It's felt like we've been interacting with the baby because sometimes when DP was rubbing the belly then baby would just roll over and come for a little back or bum stroke. It sort of feels like we're getting to know it.

3 day week for me, hip hip hooray!

elliebug · 02/04/2012 11:38

trope thinking of you, hope it all goes smoothly and you're having baby snuggles soon :) mmmm fry up

fools i can't find you on the stats list Confused when are you due? before we have to start a new thread maybe??? am secretly glad i'm not quite next

mamma please let me know if you have some extra bibs to sell, my OH loves them but i have only seen really expensive ones really should make my own, CBA

jojomamabebe have just opened a shop in my parents town so off for a nosey :o