TTC a 2012 baby - THE GRADUATES!! Pt 2

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Here's the new thread ladies!!!

May this one bring some BABIES!!!

GO DAVINA! GO DAVINA! GO GO GO!

Keep checking in, desperate for news but guess none means she's busy.

trope i agree you look amazing, i look like a soptty teenager and waddle like a duck! (actually i didnt have this many sopts when i was a teen :( )
fools that furniture is beautiful, i managed to get a second hand glider chair and i love it, hope you enjoy your as much :) and yay for the potty training
bun your little ones are sooo cute, makes me a bit broody :o
had another hosp appt tues, am measuring 38cm at 32 weeks dr said they wont let me go past 38 weeks (am secretly relieved) and got a growth scan on tues, so will see what that shows, i know they arent super accurate but a vauge idea is fine :) im not even 5ft so the thought of a huge baby is scaring me somewhat!
i am also wondering about where baby is going to sleep, we have a 3 storey house so baby can sleep in pram when on bottom floor and crib in our room but im wondering if i should get a moses basket for living room so i dont have to carry baby up and down for longer naps? especially if i have a c section. what do you ladies think???????
now davina please interupt my quewstions with some exciting baby news, thinking of you

Hi ladies. Firstly apologies for taking so long to update. Am still in hospital with a shocking signal so I've not been able to look at any posts today - hoping this message actually gets through!

But the good news is that we finally welcomed our baby GIRL at 9.31am, weighing in at 9lbs 2.5oz, by VBAC (yay!), but with an episiotomy and a 3rd degree tear (not so yay).

No names yet so I'll keep you updated when we finally decide. I'll post when we get home (praying they'll let me out tonight) and put squishy baby photos on when I'm on the laptop. Now back to trying desperately to stay awake until DH comes back, as DD is currently fast asleep on me

YEY DAVINA!!! And welcome to your little girl . Huge congratulations on getting the birth you wanted, and yeys for your little girl! What a good size too .

However, ouch! Fx you heal very quickly.

Wow davina, that's amazing well done, enjoy your snuggles

congratulations davina and you thought you weren't doing well! I got goose pimples when I saw you'd managed a VBAC, well done you! Against all odds eh?! Sorry about the episiotomy and tear but I'm sure they'll be much easier to recover from than a CS?! So happy for you all, have fun with your gorgeous girl look forward to seeing her and hope you get out soon!
PS good weight!

Awwww Davina That is brilliant!!!! I am so so pleased for you. Congratulations to you getting the VBAC

Congratulations!! What fantastic news. You superstar! Welcome Baby Davina, we can't wait to see you (DS loves looking at the photos too ).
She's destined to be awesome with such a fantastic birthday

Woop woop congratulations davina!!!! did you think you were having a boy, or am I getting you confused with someone else??? It's quite possible with my babybrain at the moment.... Well done!!!

Woooooooooooooo! Go Davina! So thrilled for you! Vbac, super weight, a gorgeous girl.... you did brilliantly well! Cannot stop :o for you! hugs and chocolates being sent your way. X

Congratulations Davina. Simply brilliant to hear your DD is here!!!!! I hope you've been allowed to come home this evening xx

Are you home davina?

Thanks for all your lovely messages ladies!

Day 1 in the Davina house Yes they finally let me out at just gone midnight last night. So glad to be home, although I nearly had to drive, as poor DH was exhausted after being up all that time plus he'd been at work the day before. He really needs his sleep though, whereas I can manage on much less. And he spent the day looking after DD when I was in theatre, me & DD when I was out, then ferrying around DS & Gran later on. At least I'd just been in bed all day He's very humble though and keeps saying he's sorry he's been so rubbish - which he's not been at all!

DD has decided that the only place she'll sleep is on me, so the Moses basket is a bit redundant at the moment! Hoping she'll settle in a couple of days though, so I can at least get a bit of rest caught up on. She had a great day feeding yesterday and a couple of explosive nappies, today not so much, but she has also been sleeping loads, in between showing off her very impressive lungs. The MW called this morning, and she's happy, which is good. We now just need to try catch up lots of sleep and settle into some sort of vague routine now.

Hope all is well with you all

Hooray! Glad you're home davina!
I've just got home after 5 hours walking with my mum, dog and Fyfe in his sling picking gorse flowers to make wine! Phew, enjoying a sit down!

Davina! I'm still beaming for you! Dh even cheered and he fucking hates mn . It's great that they let you out last night, bless your dh being so tired! Give him a and a sharp pinch for me!

Trouble, sounds like another glorious day for you!

Hey fools - was just popping in but couldn't leave your post with no response. The woman at the class is a fucking idiot - don't let her thoughtless comment mess with your head. It sounds like you've been doing great - no mean feat given your past issues. People talk a lot of shit about how "big" us pregnant folk are; comments on my bump range from how tiny and neat it is, to how enormous I am and is it twins? People just have no idea what a "normal" size bump is! It sounds to me like you're a healthy size - no need to freak out and worry about losing weight - truly. You're doing brilliantly staying healthy - don't let one ignorant ill considered comment spoil that, or spoil your enjoyment of the last bit of your pregnancy. We all put on some weight while pregnant - it's normal and it's healthy! It's what is best for our babies and for us, especially if we plan on breastfeeding! People sometimes say stupid shit, just for the sake of saying something. It doesn't mean you're fat, or have eaten too much or anything like that; it just means that woman said a stupid thing. Please please don't take it to heart.

Please phone your DH - i'm sure he would want to come home and be with you and would hate the thought of you sat home alone so upset. If not him, phone a friend or someone who knows about your past issues; you really shouldn't be alone. If you can't face doing that feel free to PM me and we can chat on that!

You're doing brilliantly, to have stayed a healthy weight for 3.5 years is a fantastic achievement and you should be rightly proud of that. Size 10/12 at 36 weeks is amazing - there's no way that's too big and you have no need to order weight loss aids, or reason to worry about your body post baby.

I'm going to keep an eye on the thread/MN till I go to bed - you're not alone, if you want to talk i'm here. xx

Lots of love fools, definitely can't say it better than trope. x

Oh Fools darling. Have a very unmumsnet hug.

Trope has worded it perfectly. What an awful thing to say to someone.

I was a size 10 when I had DS1. It's not at all big. You certainly don't need to buy any weight loss aids.

Lots of love to you.

Ditto trope people are so stupid. Hugs maybe a letter of complaint would help you feel better?? Even if you don't send it.

Welcome home davina and your daughter! Sounds like some sleepy vibes are needed - I'd send some but we need all we can get for my DD!

fools my heart sank when I read your post. People say some stupid things to pregnant women, and this was one of them - that's all it was though. At a size 10-12, there's no way you're big, and in any case you need to put on weight to help the baby and prepare for breastfeeding.

I'm still big and struggling with it, so I sympathise, but you sound to have done so well in the last few years - don't let a stupid comment spoil it. You also need to eat well after the birth to get your iron levels back up, and to make good milk if you intend on breastfeeding. But you know all this of course - just keep thinking about what a wonderful thing you're doing for your children by keeping happy and healthy.

My SIL is very much still in the grip of anorexia and it's awful for everyone concerned - you've beaten it once and you can be strong again, I'm certain. You sound like a wonderful mum, keep strong and keep believing that it's all in aid of a healthy baby.

Oh fools I don't know what to say except have a hug and that I'm thinking of you, stay strong, sounds like you've worked amazingly hard and that lady is, well it's a bit rude to type,

Thanks all. There's only dh and my best friend who knows in rl. He is useless and went out knowing I was upset, she... well, she's not one to talk about it with.

I completely agree with you, Trope, (thank you for your message by the way, I know you have so much to deal with right now and really appreciate you taking the time) and I just need to forget about her and her bullshit really. Easier said than done. Still, taking the smaller dog out for the morning with the headphones in should clear my head. If not, then.... I'll think of something. Maybe buying baby clothes will help assuming dh hasn't drunk all of our spare cash to cool his mouth after his korma

Spent the night feeling really sorry for myself and wallowing but had the dogs here for comfort and cuddles, they're far better company and support than most people I know! It's shocking how one little comment can wound. I worked myself into such a state, I had stomach pains. Not the first time, but certainly not great.

Ghost I'm sorry, had forgotten about your sil. I can only imagine how hard it must be to watch someone you care about struggling.

Right, off to don my big girl panties now and head to bed. Am sure dh will need a decent breakfast making in the morning and ds will want his mum, not some snivelling wretched mess. Thanks again to all of you.

Glad you had the dogs to look after you, they're good company when you're feeling shitty, taking the little one out to clear your head sounds good too, I'm terrible for dwelling on things so I know where you're coming from that it is hard to move on, regardless of how she meant it, or didn't mean it to be more precise, it is how it made you feel that is so difficult. I hope today is a better day for you and please know that you can talk to us whenever you need to. x

How's it going Fools? I was so upset when I read your initial post about what happened. The things this bunch of lovely ladies have said are so true. I hope you can push past the feelings and thoughts that comment brought to the surface.

Although I have no experience of what you have been through, I have experienced depression some years ago. I had a long period of counselling and it really taught me techniques to stop my anxieties from escalating. Thankfully I've managed things since then and it hasn't come back. But I do recognise when things could grow if I don't keep myself in check...eg: the orchid incident this week. A lot of my issues stemmed from my relationship with my parents. Things are way better now but when that orchid broke I just felt like I'd utterly failed and my parents would just have another example of something "i wasn't good enough at". I always feel like I have to prove something to show my worth to them. Anyway, I let myself wallow in those feelings that morning and was on the verge of tears all morning. But then I saw what I was getting myself in to and just managed to get a grip on reality. I suppose what I'm trying to say is that, that woman doesn't have a clue what she said was so hurtful to you. And you just need to see what is true, ie: you have been so strong to maintain your health, you're pregnant and you must do everything you can to keep yourself healthy for you and your baby, and once baby is here you still need to keep yourself healthy for you and baby. Please don't go down the drastic route because it can just start to spiral. Whenever I feel myself starting to slip a bit I just need to rationalise what's really going on here...

I really hope you're ok and your DP has supported you today. I hope your dogs were also a help. Animals rule

Lots of love x

Morning all! How are your weekends going? We're having a home based one to try to get some stuff done. Fyfe was very settled between feeds yesterday (yes, there were gaps...unusual for day times unless we're out!) so got loads of tidying done downstairs, looks and feels way better, I'll get it hoovered today. DH is back on the joinery, finished skirting in our room and just has spare room to do now and upstairs will be done (skirting wise that is!) then two bedrooms of picture rail to do. We have decided to have a big push as his parents are coming over from NI on 20/4 and don't have much of a budget for a hotel so unless we can get it done enough for them to stay they'll be staying in the crappiest bit of the crappiest bit of town and we really want them to experience all the best bits and to like where we live. Particularly important to me as they have insinuated on a number of occasions that I have persuaded DH in to it as my mum lives here () whereas actually it was a joint decision, we both love it here (and I did offer to move to NI!) anyway, here's hoping for lots of progress today!