I'm so scared to tell my best friend!

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Currently 6 weeks and planning on telling friends at 12 weeks which I'm so excited for but I'm so nervous/scared about telling my best friend. She hates kids and has a kind of phobia of them, she's always joked that she would disown me if I became pregnant so I'm so scared of telling her! She also has fertility problems so that adds onto it. Would it be bad of me to message her the good news or should it be face to face?

I'm sure she'll be happy for you. Maybe she jokes about not liking children because she can't have them. Because of this I'd definitely tell her face to face (sensitively)

Firstly congratulations!!!! I'm sorry a happy time like this has to be tainted a little for you. If she's a good friend she won't 'disown you' in her words. It must be difficult for her being infertile so face to face would be better (possibly towards the end of seeing her so she doesn't feel awkward the whole time). It's also worth being really sensitive to her situation and she might not be your go to person to chat babies. I have a friend like this and have tried to keep a 'normal' relationship and I'll never bring up my pregnancy unless she asks.

Good luck!

I honestly think a tactful text is best in this situation as it gives her the chance to process the information before she has to respond.

Second text. I think if you tell her in person you, quite rightly, would be excited/smiling and if she does have a bad reaction it may upset you.

As someone who has been your friend my advice is to tell her in person & be sensitive to her feelings. My best friend fell pregnant shortly after I had an ectopic & although it hurt me I was so happy for her & I would of hated to be left out of anything because of how I was feeling at that time

It isn’t sensitive to tell someone who might react badly in person. Text is overwhelmingly how people in your best friend’s position want to find out.

Looking at the date of the thread, I expect this is all resolved.