Would it be self indulgent to try and find a counsellor? And how would I go about it anyway?

[elliott]

I don't know. I don't really feel I've had much time to even think about my mum's death, let alone grieve her. I do know I have a lot of simmering anger at my dad and whenever I try to think about my mum, there are so many questions about their relationship I can't even begin to answer. Last time he came to stay I really felt like I needed to talk to someone about it, I got so angry with him for no real reason.
But do I? I don't think I'm depressed or overly traumatised by her death, so perhaps I don't 'need' to talk it through. I'm not sure what I would be trying to solve anyway.
And, where would I find someone who was any good anyway?

Not at all, it could be very helpful. Do you have a faith? My church has given me bereavement counselling and I think it is beneficial, the counsellors at our church are trained by the diocese. You could ask at your local church or if that didn't appeal try dittany's suggestion most GP surgeries can access some form of counselling.

Ok thanks. I'm an atheist, so no access through the church. I guess i could try my GP. Its difficult isn't it, I want someone who is recommended as good by someone I trust, but its not like you're asking somone to recommend a builder or a solicitor? Not really the kind of thing you can ask around for word of mouth recommendations for!!

Second Cruse - mine is very good, but it can depend on the person who comes. My brother's best friend had a counsellor also from Cruse and she was rubbish. Don't be afraid to say it isn't working and try someone else.

And it sin't self-indulgent, it's self-protecting. You need to look after yourself, there's nothing wrong with that xxxxxxx