I know this is a small issue in the grand scheme of things but I don't want to cause any more upset to my friend. My friend gave birth to her still born son. I am 90% sure she was going to call him a particular name. She said that would be his name but she would wait til he was born to be sure. Do I refer to him as that name on the card rather than baby/ babyboy? It seems the right thing to do but I am not sure. any advice?