My ex husband died years ago.

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A weird one. Not really expecting responses.

I was married for a short time (didn’t seem that short!) many years ago. I want to marry again and I thought I would just have a look to see if he had died. I’m 57 and he was older than me. Turns out he died ten years ago.

I’m more shocked and sad than I expected. We were NOT good together but being married to someone is a big deal. He didn’t even make 50 years old.

At least it seems that he was still with someone he got together with very soon after we broke up, so he had a long relationship with her.

RIP, M. I’m sorry (again) even though it looks as if we both did much better apart.

I’m sorry OP. It is a shock when someone we were close to dies.
Take a little time for yourself and I hope you feel better some.

It feels really strange when you find out someone you once was very close to dies.

did you get divorced from him?

So sorry. Hoping you find peace and closure.

I looked up my childhood best friend last year, from 30 years ago. She'd made some poor choices (drugs) that ruined her young life, and destroyed our friendship so I wanted to see how she was doing. I discovered she'd died a few months beforehand, after finally rebuilding her life with a positive relationship, had more DC, reconnecting with older DC.

It's such a shock, as even if they aren't in our lives anymore they are still a part of it, and it reminds us of our own mortality.

Thanks for your understanding. Yes I think feeling my own mortality is part of it. As well
as feeling bad again that things went so wrong between us.

Im so sorry. Any bereavement is tough and you loved him once. Xx