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My son has died

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dandelionfluffy · 29/10/2026 20:14

On Sunday my gorgeous DS died aged 14. I was in his bedroom as he hadn't been that well in the night but I checked his pulse and breathing and lay down on the other bed. Two hours later I woke up and he was blue and stiff.

He had epilepsy but they need to do an investigation if a child dies suddenly so we had to be at the hospital all day answering questions from the police. They have now issued the death certificate.

I can't really think what else to say but I wanted to put something on here - this isn't my long term username but I lost my mum in July also and set up a new username. This is just about a million times more awful. It feels like it isn't the same planet as losing an elderly parent. Not even the same universe.

We are currently in negotiations about how he will be buried but we are churchgoers and we will have his service at our regular church. We do feel relieved that the funeral service will be comforting and we don't have to make too many decisions.

My DD is 12 and she is clearly trying to be ultra busy. She's been to stay with a friend for a couple of nights and is going trick or treating with a friend. She was supposed to be spending half term doing things with her brother. She says she doesn't want to be an only child.

We have friends around us, one friend came to stay for a couple of nights and we have people locally who support us. Some friends have chipped in to send us some Cook meals. Everyone is being so lovely. I almost feel like I haven't got enough to do but then I break down in tears over a text message.

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PeachBlossom1234 · 29/10/2026 20:16

I’m so sorry, sending you so much love

AelinAG · 29/10/2026 20:16

I don’t have anything helpful to say OP but I am so, so sorry. Would you like to tell us about him?

Lilyargin · 29/10/2026 20:16

So sorry, OP.

DreamingOfGeneHunt · 29/10/2026 20:16

Oh I'm so very sorry.

strawberry12345 · 29/10/2026 20:17

I’m so sorry would you like to tell us about him?

CreepingCrone · 29/10/2026 20:18

Im just so incredibly sorry, @dandelionfluffy🖤

Arlanymor · 29/10/2026 20:18

I saw this on X today - I am so, so sorry for your loss. There is no way to think or be in this moment. Just lean on those who can give you support. The unthinkable is literally that - unthinkable. Sending so much love.

PermanentTemporary · 29/10/2026 20:18

I’m so sorry, what a terrible loss for you all.

Fleurdalys · 29/10/2026 20:18

op, my heart goes out to you darling…
im so so sorry

tsmainsqueeze · 29/10/2026 20:18

I am so very sorry x

Junibug · 29/10/2026 20:19

Oh OP I can’t even begin to imagine what you are all going through. Sending so much love and strength to you and your family. X

HermioneWeasley · 29/10/2026 20:19

I am so very sorry for your loss. Your beautiful boy. I’m heart broken for you. Sending love and strength

saraclara · 29/10/2026 20:19

How gut-wrenching. I'm so very sorry. I can't imagine what you went through in that moment when you found him.

I'm glad you have good friends supporting you through this. Do accept every offer of practical and emotional support that's offered and available.

There will be thousands of us thinking about you tonight.

nighttimemusings · 29/10/2026 20:20

I am so so sorry for your loss- tell us about him if you would like to

WitchesBritches · 29/10/2026 20:20

Oh my love, I am so sorry to hear about your DS. What a terrible shock for you & such an ordeal with the police etc when you least need it ❤️

I'm glad you have support around you & your faith. Your daughter is doing her best to stay busy and be distracted, just watch out for the enormous crash🥲
Lots of love, hugs and support
🤗🥰

keepswimming38 · 29/10/2026 20:20

I’m so very sorry for your loss. You must be reeling with the sheer grief of this. 💐

AgentPidge · 29/10/2026 20:22

How awful. What a tragedy. Sending you love xx

totallyoutnumbered · 29/10/2026 20:23

I’m so very sorry. I can’t even begin to imagine how you must be feeling. We’re all here to listen. Sending love from my corner of the world OP xxxx

Flannelfeet · 29/10/2026 20:24

I am so,so sorry for the heartbreaking loss of your son. I wish i could reach out and give you a massive cuddle. 💔💐.

Peclet · 29/10/2026 20:24

Keep talking here about your son

It is a loss too big to comprehend.

dandelionfluffy · 29/10/2026 20:25

He loved animals and Lego. Also travelling new places and Scouts.

We were thinking we could make flowers from his (huge!) Lego collection but I had a go today and the pieces that make up monster trucks and Star Wars ships aren't the right shape for Lego flowers (in case you don't know, there are builds called MOC that aren't kits but that give you instructions for loads of alternative builds).

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britespark1 · 29/10/2026 20:25

I am so very sorry OP. Absolutely unimaginable for you and your family. Would you like to tell us about your dear boy?

greenchalk · 29/10/2026 20:26

I’m so very very sorry for your loss ❤️

holkhamhighkicks · 29/10/2026 20:26

I am so terribly sorry for you, sending you strength xxx

Rowgtfc72 · 29/10/2026 20:26

So, so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family and lovely son xx

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