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My brother is dying.

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Upwiththisiwillnotput · 18/12/2024 23:29

Please can I ask some questions, I don't want to upset the wider family.
He is in hospital on end of life care. He can no longer take liquids or swallow. Realistically how long will it be before he dies?
What happens immediately after, where will he go?
For context he has been ill for some time with various conditions including COPD, he has a weak heart and stomach bleed.
I am sorry if this sounds quite cold, I am in coping mode at the moment. I love him very much, he is 65, not married and one child he doesn't see. We are a big family of siblings and he has people with him. I can't be there. I saw him a week or so ago and he was still him, although painfully thin and grey looking.
Grateful for any replies .

OP posts:
Grievingxmas · 19/12/2024 11:28

Sorry for your loss.

jay55 · 19/12/2024 15:51

Sorry for your loss, but glad it was quick and peaceful for him.

Two years on from losing my sister I'm still struggling to comprehend it, lost my dad more recently and feel guilty that I've had an easier time with that.

Take care of yourself and cherish those memories

FraterculaArctica · 19/12/2024 23:24

So sorry for the loss of your brother. I also lost my DB (younger - early 40s) a couple of weeks ago and your experience of your DB's last few days and how you felt about it resonated very much with me.

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