I'm losing my grandad today

[alittleone2]

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How sad

I lost my grandmother last summer - she was 99 so it wasn't a surprise. The thing I am glad about is that the last time I saw her she was fit, well and happy as that is how I will remember her. My mother (her daughter) found it distressing to see her a few hours before she died and wishes she hadn't.

Oh you poor love x

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My Grandfather died last year. A lovely, gentle man. I did see him afterwards and it helped make it real for me. But it is such a personal thing.

I'm so sorry x

You are lucky to have known your grandad at all. Both mine died years before I was born.

He sounds like a really lovely man. I'm so glad you had the pleasure of knowing him and so sorry you are losing him.

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no words of advice just a hug.

Can i just say, if you want to see him once he has passed away, wait until he has been to the funeral parlour. My dad didn't look like my dad until they spruced him up a bit - sorry coudlnt think of a better way to word it.

So sorry for your loss xx

Oh love. I know just what you are going through as I lost my Nan in 2005 and now have no one. She was always there for me and even now I miss her.

I hope the end is peaceful. [hugs]

((hug 4 u)) im sorry xxx

I'm very sorry to hear that you are losing your grandad. It is very hard.
My grandad died when I was 6 and 1/2 months pregnant with my DS. It was so sad for me that he would never meet him. Although it made me feel better that he knew I was pregnant and was very happy for me. That was nearly 4 years ago and I still think of him a lot now.
I arrived too late to the hospital to see him before he died, but I am glad that I saw him after. It helped me.
Best wishes to you, thinking of you to help you feel strong through it all. It sounds like all the family will be of great support to each other, which is what you will need.

Dont know what use I can be as my own grandma died 2 weeks ago (also very old and had lived a fulfilled lif, but hugely missed and very special). My mum stayed with her for the last few days, and whilst she was pleased she had been there for her mum, felt it wasnt the person she knew and loved all her life - that person had left and the body was what they didnt need any longer. Something similar was said by the funeral director. She also took my grandad to see her after she had died, and again said it wasnt my Granny there, but she couldnt have gone to funeral not knowing it was her mum there... I didnt actually see her, and whilst missing her hugley, feel she is still around - this has its +s nnd -ves though. In some ways she is stil alive to me and in others shes so far away - its really hard and I'm not sure that there is a right or wrong answer. I hope you and your family are able to reflect on your happy memories and share those with your Grandma - she will feel a huge loss but depends on your support at this very difficult time. I am thinking of you (hug)

I am truly sorry to hear what you are going through.
I only knew one of my grandads and he died when I was 4, but I lost my Mum 3 months ago and my biggest regret is not going to see her once she had passed away.

However, the fact that I didnt see her once she had died, still allows me to feel that she's still here. I dont know if thats a bad thing as Im having trouble letting go.

Youre in my thoughts are prayers.

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I'm so sorry. I know it will be very raw for you at the moment, but how lovely for your dear grandad that he passed with his family around him with lots of peace and love.

You sound like a lovely strong family.

Take care.

So sorry for you - it's a tough thing to go through but it sounds as though you have a loving supportive family there (although dp may not understand).

The decision on whether to see him afterwards is yours and yours alone - go with your gut instinct and don't let anyone talk you out of what you want to do.

I personally didn't want to see my Mum or Grandparents as I feel that you are just looking at a shell and they've gone anyway but if your last memories are of him being ravaged by cancer then a peaceful face may be good.

Massive hug for you and sending strength for today.

I am so sorry for your loss. Your situation sounds so like what I have been going through with my Gran, she held on until this morning.

Wishing you strength to get you through this awful time.
It sounds like you had some precious time before he went. Hold on to those memories.

You poor thing. I never felt sadder than when I lost my Grampy, he was the kindest most non judgemental person and I'm sure yours was too.

It does feel better with time...and because he was so fantastic to you you've got all that strength and love he gave you to pass onto your children.

Hope that doesn't sound too soppy, but Grandads are really really special.x

i saw my grandad after he died. I kept my distance because I didn't want too see him too close up, but I could see it didn't really look like him, and he just wasn't there any more - I think it helped, even though I wouldn't go close up. Thinking of you, because I loved my grandad ever so much