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Can I just show my beautiful boy off please

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23yearsagotoday · 01/11/2021 10:12

I want to show him off, if that's ok.

Its been a long time since anyone but me has acknowledged him. Sorry the photos aren't too great, there were no camera phones in the 90s so I had to take a picture of a photo.

He would be 23 now, and as handsome as his little brother no doubt.

He was so beautiful, he was a skinny wee tall boy, all eyes and feet 😂 he was tiny but his eyes were huge and he had ginormous feet.

Everyone always said he has wise eyes, and an old soul. I really felt he was an old soul too.

He fought so hard through his illness, but he was taken from me anyway.

He was cremated in his green top and green socks, that was my favourite outfit on him.

He is still so loved and missed every day. I adored him, my first born, my precious baby boy, he changed my life, he made me a mum, he taught me what love is, and now that love has no place to go so it has turned to grief.

Forever my baby ❤

Can I just show my beautiful boy off please
Can I just show my beautiful boy off please
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milissa · 01/11/2021 13:28

He is beautiful @23yearsagotoday. And I love that his name is Dotty Grin

Your posts have made me have a little cry. Your love for him is so far reaching, and your description of his personality really matches his expressions in the photos!

Please don't think people expect you to be 'over' losing him, or that no one ever thinks of him. One of my friends at primary school died nearly 19 years ago now, and I still think about him, and his parents. I don't live locally or have any means to contact them so could never tell them I think of him, but I do, and I always will. Just like there will always be more people than you think remembering your boy ❤️

DarlingFell · 01/11/2021 13:30

Those deep, soulful eyes. You can feel the love you have for him through your posts, so heartwarming.

(currently WFH and trying to hide the tears in my eyes from my DH, who will wonder why I'm crying at the spreadsheet I was working on until I decided I needed a quick MN break..)

ToastandJamandTea · 01/11/2021 13:30

What a gorgeous boy Flowers

Seaweedhair · 01/11/2021 13:32

OP I have been crying unstoppably this morning reading your messages. Your beautiful, precious boy. I'm so sorry for the deep ache in your heart at losing him. I pray for an afterlife where you'll be reunited, and in the meantime for so long as you live the memory of your wonderful cheeky boy will live on too. Thank you for sharing his story with us, what a sweet little face xxx

23yearsagotoday · 01/11/2021 13:37

I'm sorry I didn't mean to upset anyone Flowers

I haven't talked about him in a long time, nobody wants to listen anymore, so I'm very grateful that you've all given me the chance, and that you've taken the time to look at his photos and allow me to share my boy.

Thank you all so much, you're all amazing Flowers

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stupiduser · 01/11/2021 13:37

What a handsome boy and you can definitely see his big feet! Thank you for sharing all the photos. He may have rolled his eyes at you at the time but thank goodness you have them all xx

Offmyfence · 01/11/2021 13:38

You come here and talk all you want about your Scott Thanks

Applesonthelawn · 01/11/2021 13:38

Lovely little man and thank you for sharing these beautiful pictures. Wishing you love and peace.

idontiron · 01/11/2021 13:39

He will always be your beautiful son and I believe you will see him again

StarCourt · 01/11/2021 13:41

He is beautiful

thefamous5 · 01/11/2021 13:42

Oh what a handsome boy!

He does look wise beyond his years, but with a cheeky little glimmer there

Gorgeous name as well.

Talk about him all you want. Tell us anything you want to about him.

Bumpsadaisie · 01/11/2021 13:42

Whether you're Christian or not today is All Souls' Day and so it is absolutely the right day to share a photo of your gorgeous little boy! Would you share his name with us? Not to worry if you prefer not. x

Prayers for all little ones taken too soon. Including my own brother - stillborn - he would be 44 now I think and in his prime.

Bumpsadaisie · 01/11/2021 13:43

Ah - see his name is Scott! Lovely xxx

mumjustmum · 01/11/2021 13:44

I'm so glad you showed him off! He was beautiful x

DontJumpInTheFountain · 01/11/2021 13:45

He's gorgeous. Thank you for sharing him with us.

LazyDaisy22 · 01/11/2021 13:46

Your boy is absolutely beautiful - and we can tell how loved he is. Thank you for sharing his photos. I think Angel cake is such a lovely idea 💐

Oldtiredfedup · 01/11/2021 13:48

Oh he’s so cute.

Xx

Subbaxeo · 01/11/2021 13:50

Beautiful son. He was with you for such a short time. You can see he was so loved in your pictures xxxx

Jubilate · 01/11/2021 13:54

Sorry you're missing Scott. He looks like a smasher. And it sounds like he has shaped all your lives immeasurably. Xx

QOD · 01/11/2021 13:57

what a lovely little Dot he was - so very unfair

BlueShirtGirl · 01/11/2021 13:57

What a sweet little poppet. Thank you for sharing him with us. I’ve a few tears here whist holding my 4 month old, I hope I can be a loving mum like you. 💐

Libelula21 · 01/11/2021 13:58

The love between you and your beautiful Dotty is so strong. So many teddies in the photo! 🌺

BlackeyedSusan · 01/11/2021 13:58

oh my, what amazingly gorgeous eyes he has.

Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel · 01/11/2021 13:58

He's absolutely beautiful @23yearsagotoday he really is. Show him off as much as you like. I'm so so sorry you lost him. You will always be his Mummy 💕 and I believe he looks down on you with pride and love x

PraiseTheSunshine · 01/11/2021 14:01

Such a beautiful boy and it is clear to see that he was very loved. Thank you for sharing his pictures with us Flowers