My ex died last year.
We had not spoken since we broke up (badly) many years ago. I never forgave him for dumping me. I realise now, he thought I dumped him. I’ve worked though quite a lot of complicated stuff, but one thing that really upsets me is that we don’t know anyone in common any more. I don’t have anyone to reminisce with.
Other friends are fairly disinterested/don’t like him so if I try to bring stuff up it’s met with a blank look, or ‘So and so said...”
I reached out to a few people who don’t/didn’t know me, they were not responsive or not interested. I reached out to someone who knew us both- nothing.
I really want to talk with someone and share that familiarity, where you don’t have to explain the context, where you both “get it”... any ideas?