DH has died - niffler

[Nifflerbowtruckle]

Husband now terminalhttp://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/lifelimitingg_illness/3050597-husband-now-terminal

We filled the last thread. Thank you all for every good thought you have sent my way.

My cousin also has a cocker spaniel x

Lists are good. Because I had to deal with UK and Australian probate, bank accounts and pensions, I got an A4 binder with alphabetical inserts.

I put lined paper in, headed up with the name of the bank/utility, etc. and arranged these alphabetically too. I've used them to record the many phone calls I've had to make: date, time, who I spoke to and action to be taken/when. It's been invaluable, still using it.

Wow I can't imagine the level of organisation that needs. Luckily for me it's been more changing things over to my name/bank account. I just need to get some copies of our marriage certificate to send one off to his work. Annoyingly it's just longer than a4 which means I can't really copy it myself.

What gorgeous dogs you each have.

How have you been Niffler?

I've been okay. Quite stressed but doing okay. I had a dream about DH last night though that he was leaving me for another woman so that was fun. It's only the second dream I've had about him since he's passed.

Oh no that sounds upsetting. Maybe it is a way of you processing his passing. Everything must be very raw at the moment. I hope darling dog is well and things get easier for you.

Ddog is okay. She's just had a groom. I've had dreams like it before especially if I've watched a film or program with that plot line in I tend to dream the storyline . It just really sucks that he's not here to say don't be daft and give me a hug.

It's so tough for you, you're right, it sucks!
Keep looking after yourself and DDog , thinking of you.

Oh sweetie. I know he's not here to give you that hug, but know in your heart that's what he'd do

You're doing well Niffler. How cute does your dog look? All poshed up after her beauty treatments

She's a lazy beast. DH was always very loving and I miss that so much. He was never afraid to show his emotions and told me he loved me regularly. I've never been a 'girly girl' I don't wear make up on a daily basis nor do I wear skirts or dresses regularly and he always told me how beautiful he thought I was and that he preferred me without make up. Even a week or so before he died he said he always preferred me without make up and that I didn't need it.

It's so tough Nifflerbowtruckle, I'm not an overly expressive person and I'm not sure my DH was either - but together we always reached out to touch one another in passing and I miss his touch enormously.

All I can say is that the rawness eases a bit as time passes x

Thank you chasing x. I just took ddog to the park and saw a Shih Tzu we've seen a few times before. The last time we saw him DH was with us and he just fell in love with him. He's such a sweet natured dog and so chilled.

I've just been out with my pup as it's been raining all day and finally stopped.
He is wet and muddy so currently drying off in his pooch onezee (I was given it for christmas), it seems silly but 10-15 minutes in it and he comes out warm and dry and snuggly again instead of a wet muddy mess.

Ddog got groomed yesterday so I put her coat on her to reduce the muck. She's now fast asleep after running around and around. I have a ruff and tumble coat for her to dry her off but I want to get an equafleece one with legs on it.

Best wishes

Your d dog certainly is well looked after. You made me laugh saying she was a lazy beast. So is mine when she is not out walking. DH sounds a lovely man, you have some precious memories to hold onto.

She really is. A couple of times I've tried taking her out first thing in the morning and had to turn back because she was too tired. She tends to get up, go to the toilet maybe eat and then sleep for another few hours.

I have lots of wonderful memories. I think I am going to write them down as I'm afraid as time goes on I will start to forget them.

I pressed my wedding flowers after our wedding and framed them and I pressed some of DH's funeral flowers for myself and mil I just wanted to show you one of them. The photo isn't brilliant with the lighting but it looks nice. I also framed one of the order of services with some flowers for myself and some flowers with a son memorial card for mil.

That's MIL's they definitely look better in person haha

Lovely pictures lass.

Writing down your memories is a lovely idea.

Niffler they are beautiful. Good that you are feeling up to doing something like this and planning to write your memories, you will have these to look back on in years ahead.

The flowers are a lovely idea, thank you for sharing both pictures.

Thank you .