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DH has died - niffler

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 26/12/2017 12:14

Husband now terminalhttp://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/lifelimitingg_illness/3050597-husband-now-terminal

We filled the last thread. Thank you all for every good thought you have sent my way.

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Amber0685 · 31/12/2019 17:08

Hi Niffler just wanted to wish you a Happy New Year! I hope your ddog and your housemates ddog don't get too scared by the fireworks. We have had them the last couple of nights here, not fun. I hope your new job is still going well.

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 10/10/2019 13:04

Things are going okay thanks. The new job seems good. I've had training and have just had my first proper shift. It's still very much setting up but it seems good so far.

Thankfully ddog is fine with fireworks other than the huge sudden ones that also make me jump. Unfortunately my housemates dog can end up a jibbering wreck. He's no too bad inside with the tv up but if he happens to be outside it freaks him out for hours. Around here unfortunately people set off fireworks pretty randomly and constantly up until new year. It can be 2pm in the afternoon and one will go off so you can't really avoid going outside with them.

Hope you are all okay.

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Amber0685 · 09/10/2019 22:31

Hey Niffler, how are things? I hope the new job is going well. Fireworks next month, how is your ddog with them?

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Horsemad · 03/10/2019 23:05

Hello niffler, did you start your new job? How are things going?

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Horsemad · 07/08/2019 17:19

Well Done, and Good Luck with the new job. 🙂

Glad to hear DDog is happier in the cooler weather, it is better here too now it's cooled down.

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 07/08/2019 16:21

I've handed my notice in. I finish on 1st September, there are a few leaving in the next few weeks. Thankfully its cooler now so ddog is a lot happier.

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Horsemad · 24/07/2019 21:53

It will probably be a bittersweet trip Niffler. I hope you have some good memories from there. Flowers

Have you handed your notice in yet?

Are the dogs ok in the heat this week? My cats do not like it (me neither!).

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Amber0685 · 23/07/2019 07:17

Congratulations on the new job! Hope ddog is not struggling too much in the heat.

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 21/07/2019 17:51

I'm not sure. I may go visit the town DH and I lived in for a few days but probably will just try to get the house and my head a little in order before the job starts. I am looking after my parents dog for a week whilst they are all away as she's too old and frail for kennels now.

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Horsemad · 21/07/2019 16:46

Good plan to have a break before the new job starts, will you go away at all? 🙂

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 21/07/2019 15:36

The new job is more hours but less days. I'm still waiting on hearing all the details and exactly how many hours it will be. I think I will be handing my notice in next week to have a little time off before the new job starts.

I bet it feels very freeing not having to go to work.

Ddog has a cool mat that she does use. The house is actually quite cool. It's really old so it's lovely in summer but freezing in winter.

My housemate also has a new job so hopefully this time next year we will both be in our own homes.

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Horsemad · 21/07/2019 14:29

You're doing very well and what you feel is completely normal. Flowers Feeling like you are being pulled both forward and back is a good way to describe it.

Is your new job more hours?

I'm ok, enjoying some time off at the moment as I have given up my job.

Hope DDog is behaving herself 🙂 hopefully it won't be too hot for too long, although I think I heard we have a mini heatwave coming up.

I saw a cooling pad for dogs to lie on in the hot weather, would she use one of those do you think?

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 21/07/2019 14:09

Struggling a little. It still feels very surreal that this is my life. I miss DH everyday but I also can't really believe that he's gone. Life moves on and I feel pulled both forward and back.

I keep going though. Going to work and doing all the bits I need to do.

How are you all?

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Horsemad · 21/07/2019 13:57

Good to hear your update niffler. How are you in yourself? 🙂

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 20/07/2019 20:16

Hi all, ddog is struggling a little with the warmer weather but is happy enough. I have a new job starting at the end of September. I need to hand my notice in by the end of July as there will be some training to do too.

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Amber0685 · 24/05/2019 21:16

Hey Niffler just wondering if you are ok? Hope you and ddog are enjoying the warmer weather.

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Amber0685 · 28/04/2019 20:46

Hi Niffler I hope you are feeling better now. Not great that your work were reluctant to send you home when you were ill. I hope you find something else soon. Glad to here ddog is doing well, I find walks much nicer in the warmer weather. Look after yourself.

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 23/04/2019 13:36

I'm okay in general. I'm ill today though 🤢 so feeling sorry for myself. I told work I had to go home but I don't think they were too pleased I was leaving despite the fact I work with food 🤔. I'm still job hunting. Ddog is doing well and we are all enjoying the better weather. Hope you are all well.

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Amber0685 · 13/04/2019 14:16

Hi Niffler how are you? Sounds like a new job might be good for you if the one you have at the moment is making your anxiety worse. I suffer from it too, I think a lot of people do to varying degrees, so relate to the weight on your chest feeling. You probably know this, but I find once I summon up the strength to do it, taking ddog out for a walk helps, especially now the weather is improving. I hope you start to feel better soon.

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 22/03/2019 18:05

I'm still looking for a new job. Not only for the hours/money but also because where I am working has an unsure future.

I'm finding work difficult at the moment. My anxiety is ever present and is worse when I am going to work. I can mask quite well so no one knows not even my housemate but I feel like there is a weight on my chest and I can't quite breathe in deep enough.

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SingaSong12 · 16/03/2019 22:24

Just saying hello. Hope things are ok and maybe better on the job front.

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Amber0685 · 16/02/2019 18:56

Haha I feel your pain about the mud. I am glad the weather is slowly getting warmer, my friend went for a walk with me and ddog yesterday and she said you can tell spring is coming as we saw a badger!

That's good you are getting a few more hours at work. Do you like it where you are?

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 10/02/2019 14:12

Hi all is going okay. No luck on the job front but I am getting a few more hours at my current job.

That is good news Amber. Unfortunately ddog and housemates dog are like mud magnets at the minute Envy.

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Amber0685 · 08/02/2019 15:45

How are you and ddog Niffler? Did you have any luck finding another job? I went to see the orthopaedic surgeon yesterday and he said my hip should last 25 years so that is good news. My ddog was out in the rain this morning and got very muddy!

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Horsemad · 30/01/2019 09:19

Strange, was thinking about this thread late last night & thought I'd check it today & then it's just popped up on my threads I'm on! 🙂

Hope all ok Nifflerbowtruckle. Flowers

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