DH has died - niffler

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Husband now terminalhttp://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/lifelimitingg_illness/3050597-husband-now-terminal

We filled the last thread. Thank you all for every good thought you have sent my way.

Thank you chasing I will try and register with them when I get home. I only came back to pil for a few days as it's DH birthday today. I think they were glad I came as bil is away for a few days and I think it would have been too quiet for them.

Thinking of you today Niffler

Best wishes today

I'm so glad to be home. I need to try and motivate myself to do things. I mostly just sit, luckily ddog is pretty lazy.

I feel sad when I think of DH being gone and not coming back but the rest of the time I just feel empty I don't seem to feel anything.

it will come - you are still in shock. be kind to yourself. x

Haven’t posted before but have kept up with your posts.
Thinking of you.☕️🍫💐

Take your time Niffler. There's no rush, of course you just feel like sitting. You've had a terrible trauma. Take things at your own pace

Niffler, what a great girl you are. You've been left with a horrible DH shaped hole in your life and you are so generous to others. Look after yourself and DDog. I can understand why you are thinking about retail even if it is a stopgap; you can let someone else take the responsibility , earn money and hopefully have a nice team around you.

Shock maybe a bit of depression. Be kind to yourself you have suffered a horrific trauma. Have you thought about any counselling, time to look after yourself now. You are in my thoughts

I've thought about counselling but I'm not sure about when I should have it. I may end up at the gp on Monday anyway. My cold is getting a little better but I'm getting a lot of pressure in my temples and jaw now.

I feel really drained today.

My late DH's work offered free, though limited, counselling. I've twice thought I'd go for it, and then the moment passed. Eighteen months later I think I'll give it a go, if it's still on offer. Not doing so well, soooo angry. Not with DH, just everything.

Not to hi-jack, though. Wishing you well, Niffler

Don't worry about it Echt. In some ways it's nice to know I'm not alone and then in others it's awful to know other people feel as bad as I do.

I think I need to join WAY although it's something I keep putting off a little.

Sorry to hear you are feeling like that ehct, could you access any counselling now?

Niffler don't feel you should join, it's an available resource if you want it x
I went for a meal last night with my local group, 3 of us widowed early last year, 3 widowed a few years ago and 1 widowed a few weeks ago.
A good meal with good company who "get it".

I don't feel necessarily that I should join Chasing but I've been on the website and it does look like a good resource.

Thinking of you Niffler, and others x

Been thinking about you lass.

How have you been? Did you end up at the GP?

Thank you for the thoughts.

I'm okay I didn't end up going to docs as I've started getting better. It's quite annoying I very rarely get ill and if I do it doesn't last long but I've had this cold over a week.

I feel kinda selfish talking about myself all the time. How are you all doing?

Glad you're improving lass.

I'm full of bad cold, though thankfully not the dreaded flu.

My parents landed in Aus yesterday and my mil kept saying she hopes they don't get Aussie flu. I kept trying to explain its in England they could catch it here just as well and trying to explain its just a different strain of the flu virus. I think most people think flu is just a bad cold and when people unfortunately die it's because it's some super bug .

I hope your cold gets better soon MrsMozart.

Niffler - re councelling. I am 18 months on from a double bereavement and 6 months on from the 3rd. I am having my 1st session this week. sometimes I think you need a bit of time 1st to even be able to put thoughts into words. so maybe something for the future?

Wrongway I cannot imagine 3 bereavements in 18 months. I can't even imagine how you are coping I think it would destroy me. I'm so sorry for your losses. I thought that about counselling, that it would be too soon and I wouldn't know what to say.

I found out today that the benefit I will get from his work will be significantly more than I thought. It's strange because I'm going to be financially secure in a way I've never been but I'd much rather be the way I was and have DH back.

Of course you would Niffler but the money will help take pressure off you and that will help make things a little less stressful.

Thank you. Things are, fingers crossed, improving.

I'm glad you at least don't have the money side of things to worry about, though very sorry it came about this way.

So pleased you are feeling a bit better Niffler. Flu is never OK and worse when you are grieving. Pleased the extra benefit will come your way, at least that will take the pressure off for a bit longer.

You sound a lot brighter, hope it continues! ;-)