It's my mums birthday

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She would've been 73.
She died almost 4 years ago, six weeks after my dd was born and ds was 18 months old.

I have no idea why I'm writing this as I'm heading to bed but I'm pretty sure no one else will even notice and I just wanted to get it out there.

Miss you mum

Thinking of you xx

Thank you x

Thinking of you too. My mum is dying and I know her birthday will always be a big deal for me.
Happy birthday to your lovely mum x

Hope you're doing ok today, my mum passed away last month, it would've been her 60th next month and I'm dreading it tbh xx

Your post struck a cord with me. My mum died nearly 2 years ago, also aged 69, when my daughter was 6 weeks and my son was 21 months, very similar to you.

The worst thing is that she never really knew my children. She loved spending time with my son although I have little record of it to show him. He asks about 'granny' from time to time, but I know he doesn't remember her.

She was fun, and loving, and it feels like yesterday that she was here.

Oh oly, my very best wishes to you and your mum.
sooper it's always been a bad day for me, more so than the anniversary of her passing. I can remember her last birthday and, though she was ill, there was no sign that she was only days from the end.
Sounds like you and I have a very similar experience stubbed.
Can I ask if you have the feeling that I have, that is that I haven't grieved properly for her?
2 babies to look after leaves little time for headspace.
My 2 are 4 and 5 now and they know granny from photos. I have a precious few with dd. they are so matter of fact when granny (or granda) come up in conversation. "Granny died, mummy", or "you don't have a mummy and daddy anymore mummy"
I let them see me sad but struggled this morning as I was extremely upset. I hate hiding away but I don't want to upset them too.
Thank you all for your kind thoughts and my sincerest condolences for your losses

Yes it does feel like I've not grieved properly actually. I rarely cried; my dd had reflux and we didn't sleep for months so during the first year I focussed on getting everyone fed / washed and not much else.

Luckily my aunt (who was with her when she died) is good to talk to about it, so sometimes I call for a mutual moment. This really helps x