Those who have m/c what did you do on due date?

[northerner]

Just curious. Mine is approaching (end of of this month) Have been feeling OK really, but am preparing for a wobble.

Should I do anything special, should I ignore it and just get on with my day as normal?

Don't think anyone has actually done the maths except for my best friend is being great and has suggessted meeting for lunch.

What about you?

BTW I've just poked my head in the due in november thread and they've all started having their babies, why oh why did I do that?

Sorry Northener . It will be a sad day for you, I don't think you'll be able to ignore it. Your best friend sounds lovely. Doing something with her sounds like a good plan to help keep your spirits up.
I had a m/c in 2001. Two friends had due dates within a couple of weeks of mine. It was SO hard. I still think about it now, 5 years on, but the first year was the hardest.

SORRY northerner, i rember when you was due, just didnt want to remind you, ((hugs)

It's a really hard time. I had planted a tree in memory of my baby and on the due date (and every due date since) I write a letter and put it under the tree. I also light a candle under the tree and sit for a while.

I like having the time put aside to remember her.

Nobody other than my husband ever does the maths! You have a fantastic friend.

It's horrible hearing about all the babies being born at the time you should have been olding yours. My heart goes out to you.

It's entirely up to you what you do. There's no right way. Nothing wrong with doing nothing. Do what feels right. It's never an easy day. x

I found the expectation of the due date was worse than the day itself. I was upset that absolutely no-one remembered or commented on the date, not even my Mum, which was surprising given that it was her sister's birthday. I did have a wobble in the evening, though - I got a promotion at work that day and DH produced a bottle of champagne to celebrate, which was absolutely the last thing I wanted to do. I think it's best to just see how you feel on the day. It's great that your friend is being supportive and I think it'll probably be a relief once you've got through the day.

came on here and got loads of lovely messages

when I knew I was actually miscarrying dh and I went for a long walk along the beach, it was nice

Sorry Northerner, I'm going to be in the same position in January.
You can't help but think about the "what ifs". I'm going to have a quiet day and squeeze my children extra tight that day.
Thinking of you

Sorry to hear this northerner. On my ds's due date we visited the crematorium where his ashes where scattered and layed a single white rose which is the same as we had for his funeral.

I can't say it will pass easily, just make sure you make some time in the day to have a quiet moment for yourself.

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Hi norterner it will be sad for you, the first year is always the worst. I have a ribbon from Sands that I wear on the day I was due and the day my son was born. The first year I invited a friend over to spend the afternoon with me my dd also kept me company. It was my closest friend and she understood that we might just sit and do nothing. But it was nice to have her there.

Meeting for lunch sounds lovely.