what to do if not attending funeral

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My cousin's husband has died at 42 :( of cancer and I cannot make the funeral. They have two young children.

I am looking at ways of letting them know that I am thinking about them and I was looking at sending something in addition to a card. Would a hamper be appropriate rather than flowers? Just wondering if anyone has any advice. I am sorry to encroach on this board but I really want to let Dcousin know I am thinking of them.

My husband died suddenly and one if the nicest things one of my friends did was send me a hamper. It was such a lovely gesture, and meant a lot. I did have a lot of flowers which were also lovely, but the hamper was really appreciated

Could you also make a date to meet up shortly after the funeral and go out for a day eg did he have a favourite place?

Sometimes all the emphasis is on getting through the funeral and people can tail away afterwards.

She might appreciate something to look forward to in the days after.