Wife of acquaintance died - wwyd?

[Grockle]

He's a dad at karate. We've chatted a lot. His wife died on Thursday. He has 3 dc. What should I do? I've scrawled a note on the back of an envelope I found in my bag saying that I'm sorry & if I can do anything at all to let me know & I put my number on the bottom. Do I give it to him or leave it? It's silence so I can't talk to him & the children will be around at the end. Is passing a note to him weird?

Wow, his wife died on Thursday and he's a Karate today. He must be trying very hard to keep things normal for DC, but of course they can't be.

Had she been ill for a long time?

If he's someone you're generally pretty friendly with, I think a squeeze of the shoulder, a tiny smile and just let me know if there's anything you need? Then give him your number.

She'd been ill for years - cancer. The DC have done karate for years so I guess he's just trying to be 'normal'? I don't know. They only moved here a few months ago.

I'll give him my number on a bit of paper at the end.