amanda1 you are trying to deal with your grief over losing your baby and instead of support, you are getting mental abuse from ex-dp. dont try and understand how he can possibly behave the way he does, he is a heartless animal and so is his partner.its completely normal to feel rage towards him, you are heartbroken and you want him to hurt too. concentrate on your grieving process and remember that as far as ex dp is concerned, what goes around, comes around.
my little girl was due on 11th feb and i am dreading it, so i completely understand how you feel.