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My nephew's 10 day old baby has died

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MappandLucia · 19/12/2010 21:43

That's it really.

She just died. Straightforward birth, home same day - seemed to be thriving.

My heart is broken for them and I feel so useless.

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Hassledge · 19/12/2010 21:44

How awful - I'm so sorry.

winnybella · 19/12/2010 21:45
Sad Horrible. I'm so sorry.
TitianTinselTemptress · 19/12/2010 21:46

Oh my god that is so so sad. My heart goes out to them, I really can't imagine anything worse.

TitianTinselTemptress · 19/12/2010 21:46

And to you, obviously - sorry I didn't say that. You must all be devastated.

ilovesprouts · 19/12/2010 21:46

so sad x

PaxoIsEvil · 19/12/2010 21:46

Oh, that is tragic :( So sorry for your family x

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MappandLucia · 19/12/2010 21:47

I know. As a mum - it's our worst nightmare. Poor little angel.

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NorthernLurker · 19/12/2010 21:47

I'm so sorry. Sad

Are they near to you? If so don't be afraid to go and cry with them. All we can do in this heartbreak is stand with the bereaved. We can't fix it. we can't take away the pain but we can stand with them and say we're sorry.

CarGirl · 19/12/2010 21:49

Sad so sorry for you all

TheUnmentioned · 19/12/2010 21:49

Oh goodness, I am so sorry. :(

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MappandLucia · 19/12/2010 21:51

They are quite near, but they spent today at hospital with her Sad, she died yesterday.

I have had chat with him on phone which was just awful.

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NorthernLurker · 19/12/2010 21:52

Was she their first child?

OsbegaEthewulf · 19/12/2010 21:54

ohhhh, that is heartbreaking. I am so sorry

herbietea · 19/12/2010 21:57

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TheSleepFairy · 19/12/2010 22:02

I agree you can try to be there for them. Take milk, bread, teabags etc & just stick them in the fridge/cupboard.

How are you doing?
you must feel wretched. Did you get to meet her before she died?

My heart goes out to you all, so very Sad

LauraNorder · 19/12/2010 22:03

Oh how sad Sad I'm so sorry x

Valpollicella · 19/12/2010 22:04

So, so sorry to hear that. Wishing you all strength x

TurkeyMartini · 19/12/2010 22:07

Oh no. The worst thing in the world.

TurkeyMartini · 19/12/2010 22:09

Oh no. The worst thing in the world.

plupervert · 19/12/2010 22:12

Poor family. Please, please add a star to their tree and include the baby on their Christmas card, and anything else you can think of, to help your nephew and his family feel their DD is still "with" them, and with everyone else, too. Not gone.

Meanwhile, any practical help you can offer will help them save their energy, as they are going to be so exhausted with the grieving.

And make sure to take care of yourself, too. You are also grieving. Sad

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MappandLucia · 19/12/2010 22:42

Thanks all.

Plupervet - I have been thinking about Christmas card, thought maybe I shouldn't send them one? I love the star to their tree idea, thanks.

They have an almost 2 yr old ds, who is, I think, their salvation right now.

My poor nephew has got to go tomorrow to register her birth and her death Sad

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Ponders · 19/12/2010 22:48

oh Sad

How awful for everybody

I agree with plupervert, send them a Christmas card with her name on - this should have been her first Christmas with them & for them it still is

Sidge · 19/12/2010 22:51

Oh that is so terribly sad Sad

Maybe you could buy them a little pretty tree decoration with her name on?

stickersarecurrency · 19/12/2010 22:53

:(

BeerTricksPotter · 19/12/2010 23:01

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