DD is 3.6 and has been dry during the day since just before her 2nd birthday-so quite a while. However she has never got used to pooing in the toilet or potty. She has always suffered with constipation since being tiny. She can go for days without pooing and then really struggles for a couple of days to do it. We have had her on lactulose on and off but have started to give it daily now. Because of the constipation i have up until now allowed her to poo in a nappy because if i don't she simply will not poo for over a week (tried this twice) and stop eating/looks unwell etc. She is very stubborn and im not sure how we are going to break this cycle. When i have refused to give her a nappy to do it, i have given lactulose every day and STILL she won't do it. No idea how she can hold it in but she does. She has never needed to do it anywhere out of our house so im not too concerned about the nappy issue at nursery (i know she would wait rather than poo at nursery which is not ideal but again, she is so stubborn!)
Do you think i should give it a while longer until she gets a little bit older before trying again to get her to poo on the toilet? She has done it a few times and got loads of praise and rewards for it but absolutely nothing can persuade her to do it if she doesn't want to. She just suffers in silence for days She has stopped eating again now so i know she must be so blocked up.
I also worry about giving the lactulose because maybe she's not constipated, just holding it in because she is afraid it will hurt? When she does poo in her nappy its not very hard or anything, she only does a bit at a time.
Oh what to do!! Thanks for reading.