DS1 is just 3 and at pre-school 2 mornings a week for 2mths. No mention of problems then last week out of the blue teacher said we need to work on his social skills and asked me to sign a consent form for 'Early Years Action Plus'. I don't know much about the system and yes he is a bit of a handful, but isn't this jumping the gun?
Teacher says DS1 will be playing nicely one minute and then might randomly throw sand/paint at other children for no obvious reason or hit them with a toy. He also snatches toys from others and pushes other kids out of the way. Teachers say they try to give him examples of the language to use instead of being physical (is this a lot to ask of a new pre-schooler?), but they haven't done anything to address his behaviour and seem cautious about telling him off and/or using time out etc.
He is the same at home when bored or ignored with younger siblings (twins 16mths), but nothing serious and responds to time out and good attention. There are not many boys the same age at the pre-school and most are girls there. I thought boys this age often misbehaved - or am I missing something?
Any help would really be appreciated.