My DD (14) was the sweetest, most delightful little girl growing up. She loved sports, did well at school and was very loving and caring.
Towards the end of primary school she started to get a little moody but we put that down to hormones. Only it never improved. Her behaviour over the last 2 years has been horrendous. She's constantly angry, mean, disrespectful, rude. There is not a single day when she has been nice to me. She has been in trouble at school more times than I can remember. Ive not had a hug from her for as long as I can remember. She's so cold towards me. I arrange days out etc so we can spend time together but she just spoils it every time.
She occasionally meets up with friends but likes to spend her days either in front of the TV or shut away in her room.
I was noticing some possible ADHD traits so I took her for an assessment but was told she is possibly borderline but no further action needed.
She's utterly filthy too, sleeps in the clothes she has worn during the day, her bedroom carpet and bedding are covered in food. She just doesn't care. Whenever I try and talk to her about her behaviour she won't engage. She will just call me things like a liar - because I have promised her things like a Starbucks for example and ive turned the car round and drove her back home as she has been rude.
I just don't know what else to do. Ive asked her if she feels sad or depressed but she just laughs and says no. Im really at a loss.
Any advice?