My DD (7) won't open up to anyone. Big things or little things, she just won't speak on it. E.g. she's pushed at soft play, won't tell me but I see it, ask if she's fine and she'll either snap that she is or play dumb like wtf am I talking about.
Today, she comes out of school with a little badge on. I said cool badge who gave you get that? No-one. Did you find it? No. Did you take it from someone? No. Who put it on you? No one. Well how did it get on you're jumper (she wouldn't be able to do it)? Dunno, it's been there all day. FGS, it's not a big deal just tell me where it came from!!!!
On the way home she's inspecting and rubbing her arm, obviously hurt. I ask if she's ok, are you hurt? No I'm fine..... So why are you looking at your arm. No reason but can you carry my backpack. So I carry it and we keep walking. Halfway home I asked her again about the badge and her arm. There's nothing to tell, she's fine and still zilch about the badge. By this point I'm wound up so I put the backpack down and said if you're not hurt you can have this back. She took it and rubbed her arm the whole way home.......
I usually don't push and I'm all 'talk to me when you're ready' or 'it doesn't have to be me, you can talk to anyone you choose'. But
- I'm actually really hurt that she won't speak to me. We are otherwise close but I'm reaching a point where I want to say "fine, don't bother talking to me about anything then".
- It makes me worry, if god forbid, something untoward happened that she wouldn't tell anyone.
Argh, I don't get why she can't just tell us. Like the badge thing is no big deal I don't understand!!!