My son won’t poo in the toilet

[Miizzyysaf]

Hi there,my son is 4 and a half and im having such a problem to get him to poo in the toilet...i have tried not putting a nappy on him but he holds his poo in for days..tried sticker charts and bubbles...and putting him on toilet n waiting n waiting...he will use all his power on the toilet and show me he is trying to get it out but can’t....he always asks for toys when puts a nappy on and tells me he can’t do a poo in the nappy unless he plays with his toys n takes his concentration away from pooing...plz help

Do you have a toilet seat he can fit on comfortably? We have a family toilet seat, it has a smaller pull down seat as well as an adult sized one . Some toilet stickers to make to toilet look fun and friendly can help, as can reading a book to them as they try to poo.

Examples of what I mean:

The other thing i'd suggest is a stool to put his feet on to help to 'push down' on, he may feel unsteady perched high up on a loo. Does he manage a potty?

Hi he seems to be comfy on the seat but i will actually try the child seat it might make a difference...thankyou so much for your help

I havn’t tried using a stool but he’s had his feet on his little chair with a book n tried reading while trying to poo...no luck

If you imagine the height of thing to put his feet on so he has his knees up a bit so his bum is angled down it makes it easier for some people so they can push. Like the angle you’d be in if you were squatting (as in other cultures) but actually sat on the loo seat
Helpful illustration here:
www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.ecowatch.com/whats-the-big-deal-about-pooping-posture-1881918612.amp.html

So a potty naturally works at that angle