DS has ABSOLUTELY no sense of fear or danger

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He is two, which is perhaps young, but, I just remember DD totally understanding "hot" and "no" etc.

He just seems to go back again and again no matter how much of a fright or how much it hurt him.

Its getting to the point where he is putting himself in danger on a regular basis and I am starting to worry....

Help!

VVVQV

Ds1 was like this.

Even now, I have to overplay the horror of a possible outcome to an action

ie

"If you go in the road, a car might run you over and it will hurt and you will bleed a lot and you will have to go to hospital! So stay on the pavement, ok?"

" I will, Mummy, o-kaaaayyyyy"

The answer was, unfortunately, for him to get to about the age of 3.9.

Ds (2.6) is like this, though beginning to improve slightly and I know my friend's ds of the same age is the same.

No matter how many times he hurts himself on something he keeps going back and doing the same thing One day he will learn.

Ds sometimes gets the concept of 'hot' though you can't rely on that from stopping him doing something.

I think your ds is still rahter young, and I think boys may be worse for this than girls. I wouldn't worry yet about it.

I think little boys believe themselves to be immortal. gravity, whilst ruling everyone else, Does Not Apply.

I asked ds1 what he thought would happen if he fell off the top of the playhouse roof. He replied

"I would jump off boing and then I would land on my feet like thatstamp and then I would run around with my legs like this doodoodoodoodoodoodoo and climp back on again up on the door!"

ROFL Colditz!

The thing is, he is freakishly strong. He can pick up his ride on cars and throw them a fair distance. He has been able to drag a dining chair across the kitchen since he was about 14 months old (to climb up and reach things). Today he decided to reach up and grab a hot cup of tea that i thought was out of his reach/interest. He then stuck his hand in the bicycle chain of DDs bike.

Yesterday he managed to scale the fence around our pond and dip his leg in up to his hip.

He runs out into the road, laughing. SEveral times he has run off and doesnt even look around to see if you are following. He can work his way out of a 5 point harness very easily and has been able to for nearly a year now.

We have the freakisly strong thing here as well and the moving furniture to get things that we had placed out of reach. He's always had a thing for moving furniture but now he has discovered a use for it. Honestly you blink and he's half way up something.

He also loves moving chairs so he can turn the lights on and off. And then he falls off them every blinking time. NEver stops him though.

I'm sure he's just checking gravity is still working

It must be wonderfully freeing to be a 2yo boy.

Ds2 will be sensitive, I can see signs now. I was being Stern with Ds1, and ds2 burst into tears!

DS is like this, except that (thank goodness) he does grasp the concept of "hot". Everything else, watch out -- I think he's taking after my brother, who virtually had a season ticket to A&E.

Glad its not just mine, not that it helps me much....

DD is very sensitive. She screamed hysterically today when DS grabbed the mug of tea, and, again when his fingers got trapped in the bike chain.

Always screams and panics when she sees him doing something she feels is dangerous. She is only 4.

Is it very wrong to say that girls are prone to lip wobbling, and boys are prone to PowPowPow!?

Seee, VVVQV, my 4 year old would never have noticed someone doing a dangerous thing, and would probably laugh. i make him sound awful, but he is in fact extremely kind - but he doesn't get het up about things.

My dd2 is like this. Dd1 just seemed to understand once told not to do that because it was hot/sharp/dangerous etc.

Dd2 however is totally oblivious, even though she'll maybe have hurt herself this morning doing something stupid like jumping off the sofa and getting hurt, that won't stop her from doing it again in the afternoon.

She is truly exhausting and I'm just waiting for the day when I have to take her to casulty. She runs everywhere, won't walk and is very clumsy always falling over things and is constantly covered in bruises. I worry that people think I beat her but I don't she's just incredibly clumsy and always moving at full speed.

I know what you mean about exhausting.

TBH, changing his nappy is a huge battle/fight that takes about 5 minutes longer than it really should.

Also, getting him into his car seat. Almost every time is a battle.