forced ds to go "cold turkey" tonight... did I do the right thing?

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Deliberate attention-seeking title but I need your opinions!

Ds (3.5) has a serious dum-dum addiction (dummy, pacifier, soother, etc) & tonight I made him go to bed without. It was horrendous! Totally behaved like an addict without his fix. I'm in shock. He's asleep now. I cuddled him to sleep but I think he'll wake up in a few hours screaming for his precious dum-dum. Dh thinks I'm 'a bit hard' but his front teeth are noticibly protruding.

What's the best way to stop the dum-dum addiction? Cold turkey or little by little?

LOTF, it's good that you've cut the milk/water ration down so much. TBH teeth is the main reason I want ds3 to give up bf, because although I brush his teeth at night he wakes up at 5 am and comes into bed with me. He then bfs till it's time to get up and I do worry that the milk is coming into contact with his teeth for such long periods of time though they are nice and white. He's a bit of an all-or-nothing type of guy and I'm finding it very hard to cut down, so am probably having to cut it out.

if i dont give him a bottle he will litterally scream the house down. the neighbours will probably call the social!!
hv, before i told her i dont need her to call anymore, said to put him back on a dummy but he is not in the slightest bit interested and if i put a 'binky' in his mouth he gets even more angry and upset....

I have a screamer as well! Luckily our house is detached or someone would have called social services on us by now!