My 10yr old dd is emotionally and physically draining me. Long story short is dd's aggressive outbursts are too much. She has admitted she picks on me as I am 'weaker' than her dad. It started two years ago with just defiance but now she is too big to physically put to bed etc and it escalated into violence. She won't go to bed/get up in the morning/help out without a huge fuss. She flies into huge rages when not getting her way. Yesterday was final straw as had to tell my ds to lock himself in loo to keep away from her fists. (She had been told off and flew at him in anger). We do consequences etc but no change. Would a counsellor help tease out why she is so angry?