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7mo screams whenever she sees me after turning on hairdryer

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froootbat · 25/10/2014 22:43

I've just dyed my hair and after washing I decided to blow dry it, it's not a colour I haven't had with her before though it is a change from what it was I suppose so it could have something to do with it? But it I red on the hairdryer and she SCREAMED. I have never heard her like that before she was terrified so I turned it off really quickly and went to comfort her and it made her worse, so DH took her and she settled. When she saw me again she screamed again and has been screaming every time she sees me now for an hour and I am devastated, I feel absolutely terrible. How do I make her better I'm really upset I didn't mean to scare her and I feel absolutely awful :(

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froootbat · 25/10/2014 22:43

But I turned on the hairdryer*
Stupid phone.

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froootbat · 25/10/2014 23:03

Is this something she will just forget about? Or will it stick with her for a while- will she still be scared of me tomorrow? I'm absolutely heartbroken she was screaming, like a person inshore or film screams it was awful.

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froootbat · 25/10/2014 23:04

In a horror film, Jesus Christ predictive keyboard!!

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saintlyjimjams · 25/10/2014 23:09

She'll be fine. Have a google for dad shaves off beard - there was a YouTube video that went viral which showed a similar reaction to a father shaving off his beard.

If you're worried cover your hair with a scarf & try gradually revealing it.

It won't take long before she doesn't notice it at all

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froootbat · 25/10/2014 23:22

I'm not sure if it was my hair or the hairdryer :(

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Allhallowspeeve · 25/10/2014 23:33

Maybe both ! Dd used to like the Hoover - one day she took a massive dislike to it for no reason what do ever.

Cuddle, ignore it will be ok. She will still recognise your eyes and nose ( facial features )

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froootbat · 25/10/2014 23:35

It was awful, she's asleep now but she wouldn't take her bottle from me and every time she saw me right up til she fell asleep she just screamed :( :(

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TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 25/10/2014 23:42

Wow - that's quite extreme. What is the colour change?
I'd suggest that she was possibly overtired. You may find its all good in the morning but she'll be fine by lunchtime.

BertieBotts · 25/10/2014 23:46

It might have been the combination of the noise and the colour and she thinks you've been hurt or changed or damaged?

I agree with tying up the hair or wearing a scarf and gradually revealing it, and I'm sure she'll be fine. You'll laugh about it when she's older :)

BertieBotts · 25/10/2014 23:47

And perhaps steer clear of any other changes e.g. don't wear any strong perfumes unless you usually wear one, for the next couple of days.

Sicaq · 25/10/2014 23:51

I used to be terrified of hairdryers as a child - not sure why. It may just be that. I must have got over it at some point. Tr? not to worry, I expect it is not unusual.

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froootbat · 25/10/2014 23:54

@treadsoftly - pink to black (pink=maintenance) but I went from blonde to pink possibly 2 weeks ago? I dye my hair a lot tbh I'm surprised it's still present. It was a really extreme reaction it's really made me feel dreadful, I keep getting upset about it it was that bad. DH had to take her away from me leaving me absolutely sobbing with no way to make her better it really was terrible.its not like she hasn't known me to have black hair either though so I think it was just the hairdryer. I turned it in and she jumped so I put it on slowly near her to show her it didn't hurt it it had the opposite effect. I never meant to scare her like that at all and I feel like a completely terrible mum. I never ever want to see her that scared again I don't think I've ever felt so awful in my life!!

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froootbat · 25/10/2014 23:55

It's worth adding that I can't tie my hair up, it's very short haha!

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BertieBotts · 25/10/2014 23:59

Oh, don't worry :) babies are funny creatures and you don't know what will spook them. Do you have any pictures of you with black hair before?

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froootbat · 26/10/2014 00:06

Thank you bertiebotts you've made me feel lots better :) I sought reassurance from DH and he er... Made it much worse. I was so scared she'd remember and hate me forever (ftm nerves/hormones...)

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froootbat · 26/10/2014 00:06

And I do somewhere, it was only a month or two ago, short memories, these babies... I hope!

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froootbat · 26/10/2014 06:05

She just woke up and was all smiles at me, phew!

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TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 27/10/2014 11:39

Prob the hairdryer plus Ms Malificent holding it Grin. My DD was terrified of hand-driers and still really dislikes them at 4yo. Odd

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froootbat · 27/10/2014 12:08

treadsoftly it's funny you said Maleficent, I washed my hair in the bath last night and it went black, DH said it looked like something Maleficent would bathe in haha!
Aw, she's forgiven me now, won't be using the hairdryer in front of her again!

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