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Poor DS has been 'challenging' today

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PseudoBadger · 31/08/2013 19:20

DS is 2 years 7 months. I am 34 weeks pregnant.

He has always been very clingy and would follow me around, getting upset if I went to the loo etc.
We've never had any behaviour issues that haven't been overcome with me being consistent and calm, which I've always found easy. He's generally pretty compliant.

Today he has hit a new low. It's been a real love-hate relationship today. He has hit me in the face a couple of times (once more accidentally but whilst holding something, once on purpose and got me in the eye). He's clambering all over my ample bump which isn't a problem as long as he stops when I ask, but he hasn't stopped today.
He's kicking me if I change him or get him dressed, normally I battle on through and we move on but I'm just worn out today.
Despite appearing to hate me he's screaming blue murder if I leave him.

He has been out of the house 3 times today, and been in the garden when we're at home. He's had a nap. It's like a monster has come from nowhere! And I'm almost at the end of my tether pregnancy wise size of a whale and am not sleeping well. My patience is running thin and I really don't need him to do this right now.

Can anyone help?

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JellyCurls · 31/08/2013 19:54

Wonder if its an age thing my 2 yr 7 month is the same just now. Also we have a baby due in 4 weeks so maybe that's unsettling them. Hoping a super nanny experienced mum can come along and advise us x

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PseudoBadger · 31/08/2013 20:18

Thank you Jelly, sounds like it's an age thing maybe! It's been such a quick escalation into nightmare it took me by surprise!
I am dreading being post c-section :(

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TheFalconsmistress · 31/08/2013 21:30

Ds did all of this at the same age he also is normally a content wee child. I stood firm with the hitting and gave him a stern row for it so he understood but everything else I found best tot let it slide, I also let him go to bed when he pleased but that it was on the condition he read/watched/played something in his room or in the lounge but he was not noisy or teary. He in the end went to bed with some cosy milk on his own. It is frustrating as long as you just focus on the important battles it will be easier to get through

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PseudoBadger · 31/08/2013 22:46

Thank you falcon!

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Ledkr · 31/08/2013 22:54

I started a thread about my same age dd.
I felt mentally ill today with her behaviour.
She won't play alone and has to have my undivided attention constantly, only happy out of the house, gets undressed all the time, won't sit in car seat or walk nicely with me when out.
I'm glad it's the age.
I'm also glad I'm not pregnant as well

ElBombero · 31/08/2013 23:01

Oh dear! I've had a very similar day with 2.6 DD today, for the first time ever she made me cry
(also pg 39wks) she was being so so naughty all day, made her pasta for tea which she asked for, served it and she flipped it off the table n shouted "no!! I want beans!" Keeping calm at that time is just so so hard. I told her it was naughty / only reason i made it was because she asked etc... Put ruined tea in bin warmed her up half of tin of beans that was sat in fridge, gave her the beans to which her answer was "NO Pasta!" Told her the pasta was in the bin cos she had thrown it to which she then cried / shouted / screamed and eventually properly sobbed ppppppaaassssta. So I just put her in the bath and cried. Really hard day...

Ledkr · 31/08/2013 23:08

What's the matter with you all having more?!
Ha ha she's my 5th btw.
I cried too at the dinner table and screamed as she undressed and took her hair out just as we left for a party 25 mins after it started.
I cried harder when I opened some fizzy water and it sprayed all over me as if it had been shaken for hours.

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PseudoBadger · 01/09/2013 02:52

Thanks Ledkr I saw your thread. DS has also refused to hold my hand on the pavement this week so we've either been returning to the car or house as quickly as I can waddle holding him!
And El I usually get a perverse enjoyment out of following through when DS has said he didn't want something at dinner. But agree that emotions are just too readily activated right now and yes we've both ended up sobbing :(
There was an incident today with playdough being used as a football and the the bin. Cue much sobbing of "myyyyyyh blueeeeeeeee playyyyyyyyyu doughhhhhhhhhhh" :o

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Bearandcub · 01/09/2013 03:59

They come through it, promise.

DS1 was horrific - but he has calmed down/ grown up into a back-chatting threenager who loves rude words, his willy, homemade weapons and his brother.

Not really selling it am I?

VortexOfDisaster · 01/09/2013 04:08

Welcome to terrible twos/ threes!

This too will pass! (but alas not just yet... )

icepole · 01/09/2013 05:04

45 minutes of refusing to get in her car seat here. Was awful.

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PseudoBadger · 01/09/2013 07:06

Oh god Bear I thought you said 'teenager' and i'd have this for 10 more years!

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Ledkr · 01/09/2013 07:36

Yes but I've done 3 teens and am on a tween ATM
I'd rather them than dd at the moment.
Dreading the day here. Dh at work and dd1 off to her dads.
Just me and dd2 ALL DAY

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PseudoBadger · 01/09/2013 07:40

Good luck! DP had plans to bugger off out to watch the football this afternoon. I've persuaded him to watch it here and have a couple of his friends over so DS can run them ragged and we'll have a BBQ; DS can be Fireman Sam and warn us all of the FIRE!

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Ledkr · 01/09/2013 07:45

I want to watch the football, back in the day I'd have been in the pub with my friends now I'm here dreading my day

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PseudoBadger · 01/09/2013 07:53

I don't want to watch it! I just didn't want to be alone with the monster :o

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PseudoBadger · 01/09/2013 07:54

I'm sorry you're dreading it. Have you got anything planned?

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Ledkr · 01/09/2013 07:57

Not really. It's hard on a Sunday everyone's busy.
Hoping weather is nice so we can go swimming. I can see a friend maybe.
I'm going into hospital tomorrow for minor op. in overnight then dh off for a week.
Is it mad that I'm looking forward to the break

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PseudoBadger · 01/09/2013 08:03

Not mad at all - I'm looking forward to a few hours before my elcs in a similar way :o

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Ledkr · 01/09/2013 09:02

Ha ha
Yes I had a section and dh and I read the papers before walking down to theatre. Very civilised.
Weather nice so swimming it will be.
She loves it and is generally happy there.

FamilyNapPlease · 01/09/2013 09:41

I am fully behind doing whatever gets you through hard days. Wine at lunch time, movie on after breakfast, pyjamas all day if that's easier, crackers for lunch.... I just think some days are harder than others and if the wheels are falling off we need permission to bend with the wind and cut some corners if they help get us through! Of course daily application of this theory week in week out not ideal

FamilyNapPlease · 01/09/2013 09:43

Oops wine not greatest suggestion at 34 weeks preggie sorry op! Lovely juice? Strong cup of tea?

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PseudoBadger · 01/09/2013 10:35

We just went for a dog walk (DS rides his bike) and I had a bit of a break down and sob, because DS wanted to go towards the busy car park rather than the nice green field. One of the dogs got really worried by my tears and DS said "no cry mummy" and we had a cuddle. He can be lovely!
Hope your day goes ok Ledkr.

I just had a chocolate biscuit FamilyNap :o

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Ledkr · 01/09/2013 10:42

We are all eating cake here!!
I cried pitifully when the soda water sprayed me.
I sat there dripping and sobbing

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PseudoBadger · 01/09/2013 10:44

Does it damage them to see us sobbing do you think?

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