I'm so, so chuffed! DD's been a nightmare getting her hair washed. Proper phobia. Screams blue murder and leaps out of the bath at the sight of the shampoo/shower head/proper hair washing jug/rubber head band thing... honestly I'd tried everything and was really at the end of my tether.
Then a mum at playgroup suggested I give her a wet flannel and see what happens. I went a step further and I tricked her. I turned it into a game and she loved it. I got a hand towel and crouched down in front of the bath. Did 1,2,3, leapt up and put the towel over my head and she copied! (Except with a soaking wet flannel, mwahahahah!)
OK, we're not yet onto the shampoo but it's a start and what an unbelievable breakthrough. Just wanted to share.