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would you venture an opinion- i already did and it's gone down like a lead balloon

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sleeplessinstretford · 10/08/2009 14:17

so, some friends of ours have one child and are thinking of calling their next child a name which will make them an infamous pairing ie it's not Myra and Ian but we're getting there.So, I said, ooh, have you thought of the connections to blah they hadn't but now apparently the name is ruined and they don't like any other.Should i have said anything and if you were in danger of calling your kids 'fred and rose' or something else like that would you rather someone pointed it out?

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lena522 · 10/08/2009 14:20

Well, if you hadn't pointed it out someone else would've probably notcied at some point. Better that they realise now than when the baby is here and it's too late to change it

wonderingwondering · 10/08/2009 14:20

I wouldn't point it out. In twenty years' time, who knows what infamous or tacky pairings there will be, so there's no guarantee that the name(s) you choose won't attract negative connotations at some point.

And I don't think many people would see two toddlers and immediately think of serial killers!

IneedacleanerIamalazyslattern · 10/08/2009 14:27

If the pairing was that obvious and that notorious I probably would actually agree with Lena really someone would have at some point and after the baby was named it would have been worse to spoil the name then.

Bonnie and Clyde?? I am desperate to know what the name was now, if you told us one of them would we guess the other?

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sleeplessinstretford · 10/08/2009 14:29

holly and jessica actually-so it's the murdered rather than the murderers. both really nice names but unfortunately linked

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FimbleHobbs · 10/08/2009 14:29

It really depends how infamous the pair are I think. And possibly even what their surnamer is...

No harm in mentioning it though, then its up to the parents to decide if its significant.

I googled my children's names before finalising them, my son is apparently wanted in Scotland for escaping from the Sheriffs Court (he was up for assault), and one variation of my daughter met a tragic end in Australia, but neither thing was enough to put me off.

FimbleHobbs · 10/08/2009 14:31

Holly and Jessica - yes I would have pointed that out. But if I was the parent I don't think it'd ruin it for me.

IneedacleanerIamalazyslattern · 10/08/2009 14:33

Ah yes I probably would have pointed that out as well.
Not sure if it was me it would ruin the names for me but I think if it hadn't occured to me I would want it pointed out.

mrswoolf · 10/08/2009 14:40

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MmeLindt · 10/08/2009 14:43

Hmm, I think that I would have said something too. It would have been said sooner or later anyway.

I would have made the connection, and I was not even living in the UK at the time.

Tinker · 10/08/2009 14:45

Loads of girls are called Holly and Jessica. I don't think it's particularly noticeable as a coupling.

FAQtothefuture · 10/08/2009 14:46

I have to confess I wouldn't have made the connection - so no I wouldn't have pointed it out.

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sleeplessinstretford · 10/08/2009 14:47

they are both nice names-i was merely commenting on the association and not the niceness of the names, i wouldn't dare in real life to say 'i dislike that name' as it's not my business-but it immediately sprang to mind for me so i assumed it'd do the same with others.

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crokky · 10/08/2009 14:50

Both are lovely names, but I think I would have said something as well.

clumsymum · 10/08/2009 15:16

I don't think I would have made the connection either, so in a few more years it's even less likely.

However, if I had made the connection, I think I might feel obliged to mention it.

MamaLazarou · 10/08/2009 16:35

Yes, I would also have said something. But then, I am a big-mouth.

MorrisZapp · 10/08/2009 16:58

I'd have said something.

Pollyanna · 10/08/2009 16:59

I don't think I'd have known the connection.

I thought you were going to say Fred and Rose!

screamingabdab · 10/08/2009 18:41

I'm surprised they didn't make the link themselves. I think I would have had to say something, in the circs of two murdered children

GirlsAreLoud · 10/08/2009 18:44

Yes I would say something. If it doesn't bother them then fine but if it hadn't occurred to them then did later and they didn't like it you would have regretted staying schtum.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 10/08/2009 18:51

I don't think it's that obvious.

I actually thought you were going to say Fred and Rose!!

liliputlady · 10/08/2009 19:39

Yes, I would have definitely wanted that pointing out - you did the right thing.

MaggieBelleVirgo · 10/08/2009 20:20

my dd has two friends called this, and I have to admit, I am one who does make the connection and I have to push it out of my head when I hear their names together (as I often do). Those girls went missing just before my dd was born.

jauntinthesurf · 11/08/2009 01:25

Yes I would have mentioned.

kitkatqueen · 11/08/2009 01:38

I would have mentioned it.

nappyaddict · 11/08/2009 02:52

Would you mention it if the baby had already been born and named though? I know twins called Ronnie and Reggie and am often curious as to whether they know the history behind these two names (even more so cos they have twins not just brothers called Ronnie and Reggie and it seems way too much of a coincidence) or whether they did know and it didn't bother them.

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