I’m sorry you don’t like my answer (is your son/daughter called Clara, if so I apologise).
I don’t like the name Benjamin for a girl, but I quite like the name James, I’m sorry that offends you. I prefer the name Robin for a boy, and Jocelyn for a boy rather than a girl. I also prefer Jessie and Wren on a boy.
I like the name Grace for a boy, I wouldn’t call a child of either sex Rose. There are some names I like and some I don’t, some I would call a girl and some I would a boy, I think that’s completely normal and liking one particular boy’s name for a girl is totally in line with that. I don’t like overly frilly names in general and wouldn’t call a boy or girl those types of names. Absolutely comfortable with whatever that says about me!