Will we ever find a name we agree on

[Tomsthetriumph]

DH and I are expecting our first child together, I have 3DC from my previous marriage named Poppy, Finley and Lucy. He has 2 children from his previous marriage who are now adults named China and Caspian.
Obviously our naming style is totally different and we are finding picking a name for this little girl nearly impossible.

My list is
Sophie
Emily
Lottie
Ruby

DHs list is
Indie
Cleo
Cassia
Suki

I really don’t like any of the names on his list. He doesn’t like the names on mine! What do we do?

Would you do a Susannah, nicknamed Suki?

Both you and DH have largely followed your personal existing patterns (you with the EE sounding ending, him with the C names, aside from Indie). I would suggest you both come up with some options that break away from your existing patterns, otherwise it does just feel like you are naming another child with your respective exes, which understandably won't go down well with each other.

Chloe
Jasmine - Jazzy
Daisy
Scarlett
Indigo
Flora
Cosima
Cosette

So a long winded but fun (for us) game my DH and I played when we were in the same boat.

1. Each prep a list of names you like (we went with 1 for each letter of the alphabet). You need an equal number of names.
2. Write each name on individual scraps of paper, so you each have a pile in front of you.
3. Choose one name from each of your piles at random to put side by side.
4. Discuss the names, choose one winner from the two. Put the winner into one pile and discard the other.
5. Continue for the whole pile of names.
6. You should now have a pile of 'winning names' and a discard pile.
7. The next stage is to bring out two names from the winners pile each time to compare, but this time it's winner stays on.
8. So say you bring out Mary and Cassandra, and agree Cassandra wins, Mary joins the discard pile and you draw another name, so now you have Cassandra Vs Alice, this time Alice wins....and so on until you've gone through all the names and hopefully have found a winner.

We did it over a long dinner, and it's actually how we chose the first/middle name combo as two names came out together which flowed nicely.

It makes an event out of it, you get to sit and connect and joke and debate, and hopefully come out of it with a name you both agree on.

What about Juno?

I really like a couple of names from both of your lists - I think there are definitely names that overlap both of your styles. DH and I had a similar problem, we went through the ons names list together and wrote down any names that we liked - didn't have to love - then compared lists and there were about 5 names that featured on both lists so that was our shortlist, as it happens we went for one on your DHs list!

How about
Emilia
Mila
Ada
Freya
Joss (nn for Jocelyn)
Clara
Winnie (nn for Winifred)
Mabel
Beatrice
Grace
Leila
Penelope/Penny
Noa

Well your DH has more contemporary taste and yours is a bit more traditional op. So you’ll need to meet in the middle I guess.

How about:
Camille
Paloma
Lyra
Eloise
Sylvie
Mia
Leah
Seren
Estella
Layla
Lara
Clara
Chloe
Lois
Marnie
Maisie

Of his names I think Cleo is the best.