So I am having my first child due in June 2025, I have recently separated from my child’s father and he is refusing to be involved if we aren’t a family. However I’m conflicted I am white my baby will be half English half Nigerian. I want to give them their dad’s name as well as mine because I think it’s important they feel close to their African roots and hertitage. I will be double barrelling the name so they have my last name too. I am however second guessing my decisions because their dad is completely absent, not attending appointments, not wanting to be involved, changed numbers, not asked about the pregnancy at all, probably won’t be at the labour or involved in his or her life. I feel this is a privilege to have your baby have your name and one he is currently undeserving of. If he isn’t involved I don’t want my baby to dislike there name because their dad wasn’t around and it’s a reminder of that but as I previously stated I also think it’s important they have connections to both sides of their families and cultures. Please give advice on what you would do and please be kind I never wanted this situation!