DS2 due soon and still can't decide on a name!

[Bigwig1]

Please help! We currently have a Nathaniel (goes by Nate), and some of the name I like that DH has ruled out are: Gabriel, Theodore, Sebastian, Oliver.

The names we at least don't disagree on are:

1. Archer
2. Jacob (although I don't like Jake, quite like Jay or Jack)
3. Wyatt
4. Lincoln

It's currently looking like it might be Archer, but we always thought that would be the middle name. I like names 1 and 2, and DH is more for 3 and 4!

I'm really struggling! Any suggestions?? Thank you!

[Fivemoreminutes1]

Bennett
Asher
Caleb
Dexter
Hudson
Fletcher
Rafferty 
Elias
Carter
Xander
Evan
Grayson

[whatisthemime]

Jago
Miles
Milo
Alistair
Brad
Rex
Ashton
Harrison

[Mirabai]

Your DH has ruled out all the nice names and you’re left with the dud ones.

Jacob is fine, goes well with Nathaniel, but there are an awful lot of Jakes.

As to the other US wannabe names - think through how they sound in your own accent. They generally better with an American accent (and in America).

[cherryassam]

Archibald 
Zachary 
Emmanuel 
Maximilian
Atticus 
Barnaby
Edison
Elliot
Finnegan
Gideon
Harrison
Leander
Malachi
Rafferty
Phineas
Raphael 
Tobias
Whittaker
August
Everett 
Jasper
Silas
Rowan
Holden
Felix 
Dexter
Finnian
Lorcan
Rory
Wilder
Xander
Asher
Dashiell
Emmett
Wilfred
Owen
Christopher
Christian
Elijah
Frederick
Roderick
Lawrence
Marcus
Aaron
Caleb
Ezra
Isaac
Jesse
Micah
Reuben
Samuel
Samson
Mason

[DuchessOfSausage]

Archer - surname, I don't like it as a first name
Jacob - you don't like Jake, so maybe not
Wyatt - surname
Lincoln - ok but a bit american

Other than Jacob (Jake) none seem to go with Nathaniel (Nate)

Your list is better than the compromise one.

[IDoughnutKnow]

some of the name I like that DH has ruled out are: Gabriel, Theodore, Sebastian, Oliver

You need to rule them back in, as the alternatives you've mentioned are awful.

Archer is horrendous (unless you are American, in which case it is still horrendous but at least it's in the context of similar names). Lincoln and Wyatt are only marginally less bad.

I'd also rule out Grayson, Hudson, Teuton, Moron, Mason and all others along these lines.

[DuchessOfSausage]

Christopher nn Kit
Dominic
Matthias
Tobias
Alexander nn Xand
Zachary nn Zac

American: Jefferson nn Jeff

[mumonthehill]

Stick to your guns, your names are lovely.

[HopeAndStrength]

I like your first choices, and Archer is nice too.

How about:

• Arthur / Artie / Art
• Finley / Finn
• Lewis / Lew
• Albert / Albie

[Beautifulsunflowers]

Nathaniel nn nate is such a lovely name. His brother deserves a lovely name too.
im not keen on any on your list except Jacob but he will get Jake so if you can’t live with that then don’t call him Jacob.

how about

Alexander nn Alex or xander
Joseph nn Joe or Joey
Oscar
Robert nn Robbie
victor
William nn Will
Benjamin nn Ben
Timothy nn Tim
Nicholas nn Nick
Isaac
Zachary nn Zach
Henry
Hugo
Saul
Andrew nn Andy or Drew
Ashley nn Ash
Cameron
Adam

[Bigwig1]

Thanks everyone! As you can see we have very very different taste in names. DH does seem to like more American names and we rarely come across ones we both like.

Caleb was actually his first choice for DS1, but for some reason I just don't like it all that much. Not sure why really. My favourite is Gabriel, but he definitely isn't budging on that one unfortunately.

Is Kobe often used as a n/n for Jacob? I quite like that

[Moveoverdarlin]

I like all of the names your DH has ruled out and none of the ones you are left with.

[DuchessOfSausage]

Nathaniel and Oliver go together. Theo is a bit overused.
If you like - el names, how about Michael or Samuel?

[LilyLemonade]

Lisle
Seth
Cory
Leonard

[LilyLemonade]

Balthasar
Barnabas
Simeon

[TaigaSno]

Jacob seems to fit nicely with Nathaniel but the others on your shared lists don't seem to go well.

Other suggestions:

Asher nn Ash

Benedict nn Ned

Casper nn Cas

[cordelia16]

I was going to suggest Jacob, nn Coby (Kobe), but I didn't know if that sounded too American as well because of Kobe Bryant. But the Coby spelling could work (and is closer to the end spelling of Jacob).

[aprilshowers2015]

We had Archer, Wyatt, Austin and Samson on our shortlist and ended up with Cameron.

[Bigwig1]

Noah maybe....? But there are an awful lot of Noah's!

[IDoughnutKnow]

Is Kobe often used as a n/n for Jacob? I quite like that

No it isn't, and because you're a nice person, you're tying yourself in knots trying to find a way to persuade yourself that you can live with one of your husband's crappy name choices. You can't call a child a name you "quite like".

Stick to your guns and give him a list of the names you love equally, and then let him choose one of those. But nothing else!

[neverenoughwine]

Gabriel is by far the stand out name, but I'm biased.

I like Jacob, but like you I'm not a fan of the nn's and you have to like the possible nn's just as much in my opinion (as friends, family etc will give them an nn you don't like 😂)

Sebastien
Jude
Jesse
Arthur

[neverenoughwine]

Also just to add, I've had nothing but compliments on the name Gabriel (Gabe for short!) His friends think it's cool and he's a 5ft 10, 14 year old now with size 11.5 feet 😂😂, sat upstairs practicing Metallica on his electric guitar!

Just go for Gabriel, you will not regret it!

[35andThriving]

Nathaniel is great.

How about: -

Douglas
Joel
Casper
Dominic
Jeremy
Matthew

[IggyAce]

I like Nathaniel and think the following would go well:
Alexander nn Xander or Lex
ezekiel
Lucian

[Mumofgirls2017]

Jacob goes best and also like lincoln

nathaniel and…

benjamin
reuben
elijah
zachary
nicholas
christopher
maxwell
alexander
tobias
felix
Elliott
isaac
joshua
harrison