Help… DH derailing baby boy name choice

[Calmondeck]

DH & I expecting baby boy 2. We have totally different tastes. His choice won for DS1 (I was high on post birth euphoria).

DH’s picks:

• Serge
• Bruno

My pick:

• Tom
• Luca

We slightly agree on Alexander and Bastian.

Any advice welcome because I really don’t want to have a son named Serge

I love Luca x

Luca is my favourite, Tom is good too

I don't like your husband's style of names at all!!

Surely if his choice won for the first child then it's your turn for the second?? That's how it worked in this house anyway 🙂. So long as the other one is ok with it!

I've known 2 Serge's and they have both been the most fantastic guys, so that sways me a bit!
DH appears to like international names. I'd say Luca is in that style.
Don't do Bastian, please!
So, looks like the compromise is Alexander. Would versions of that appeal to both of you? Zander/Xander? Alessandro?

Luca's absolutely beautiful. Tom isn't bad either, it's a bit plain. Serge and Bruno are genuinely terrible, don't let him have it.

I love Alexander so if you can both agree on it that's lovely. Bastian isn't for me, but I do like Sebastian.

Vote for Luca but if he really dislikes it (although it should be your turn if you got first child choice??) but if not then Alexander

I’m not sure I’d describe your tastes as totally opposite. If I say a list saying Serge, Bruno, Luca it would look totally consistent.

Maybe you just need to explore more names until you find one you both love.

Personally, I like Bastian. I don’t see why it’s a ‘please don’t’.

Your husband having a different taste in names isn't derailing! Wow that's not exactly respecting him. That sounds like you want your choice and that's it.

What’s your eldest called? Might help us a bit!

I’m on the side of names should be agreed - no one parent gets to choose over the other. So as you both like Alexander, go for that.

Alessio?

Alexander.

Bastian? You can't to that to a poor child - way too close to Bastard!!

I like Bruno

Alexander

Serge is LTB territory. If he picked your DS1’s name why can’t you pick for this DC?

Luca or Tom and lovely, not keen on the others. Put your foot down! You have good taste in names X

My friend has a great Bruno, but nowadays I would be worried that too many people would thing about Encanto

I think we need to know the name of DC 1 really to help.

I do love Tom but may be a bit off if your child is named somewhat in your husband's style.

Alexander or Sebastian.

I don’t like there others (sorry).

Luke Alexander?

My DH named our first off the shortlist (said he didn't look like the other 2) so I named our second (both boys)
Just stick to your guns!

@RedToothBrush don’t worry, I respect my DH a lot. DS1 got his top name choice, + his father’s name as middle name + his surname.

DS1 is Walter, nn Walt.

@chickbean thanks for the heads up on Encanto. That’s off putting!

I can imagine Walter and Thomas, Walt & Tom, I guess Alexander too, but we’re not so keen on Alex which he’ll inevitably be shortened too.

Really happy to receive suggestions. By way of background - we’re living in a European city, and their father has Italian heritage.

Well you have to agree, so it sounds like it’s Alexander or Sebastian, both of which are nice (just Bastian is weird).

Sebastian - nn Bas or Seb - Walt and Seb work well.

Alexander known as Zander/Xand might work for both.

Alexander could be Zander instead of Alex.

Tom/Thomas is a great name

Sebastian is far nicer than Bastian… Walt and Seb.

Serge reminds me of that horrid little meerkat shudder.

Walter is handsome.
Walter and Thomas Alexander.
Walter and Barry Alexander
Walter and Xavier Thomas
Walter and Alexander Thomas