There must be one out there we agree on!

[Pheepa]

We are having our 3rd child and first boy and just can’t agree on any names. Been through so many lists, please tell me there’s one we haven’t thought of!

I want Sebastian.
I like
Elliott
Seth (but it doesn’t go with our surname at all)
Alexander nn Xander
Nathaniel nn Nate
But can’t get DH to agree to any of those

He wants Roger or Martin which I just can’t get on board with!

We both like Austin but I just can’t see it as my son’s name for some reason but do think it’s a lovely name.

We can’t have (due to having others in the family)
Albert/Albie
Joel
Luke/Luca/Lucas
Elijah/Eli
George
Isaac

We don’t like anything really modern/trendy and would really like to avoid the popular (but lovely) ones like Oscar/Henry/Charlie/Arthur/William/Theo.
DH won’t like anything that could be unisex.

There must be one out there we haven’t thought of! (I kind of know there isn’t!)

Thanks

Julian
Geoffrey
Douglas
Malcolm
Declan
Justin
Clifford
Gideon
Marlon
Carl

Fwiw I'd keep Austin in mind until you see your baby.

Ray
Finlay
Dexter
Jonah
Miles
Aaron
Vincent
Dylan
Wesley
Elliott
Stuart
Otis
Nicholas
Lewis
Ethan

Benjamin
cameron
Dominic
Reuben
Ethan
Michael
Leo
Angus

Joseph
Scott
William
Freddie

I actually really like Martin. Due a revival IMHO.

Francis
Simon
Joseph
David
Louis
Matthew/Matthias
Finlay
Ferdinand
Jonathan
Daniel
Benedict
Victor (also due a massive revival)
Clement

Samuel
Michael
Gareth
Peter
Stephen/Steven
Stephan

Have you tried the Kinder name app? You link your accounts, but independently swipe through names and any name you both agree on add to a shared list.

Gabriel nn Gabe

Duncan
Alasdair
Alexander with nn Sandy instead
Adam
Thomas

Augustus (Gus)
Horatio (Horace)
Humphrey
Valentine
Florian
Flavian
Henry

I have used some of these.

My first thought was Matthew -

Oliver
Robert
Andrew
Quentin
Timothy
Zachary
Benjamin
Tobias

I think we have similar taste. My sons name is in your list as are others shortlisted for DS2.
I also like:
Rhys
Dominic
Ewan/Euan
Joseph
Ethan

Richard
Benedict
Edgar
Hereward
Fergus

Marvin
Harvey
Sean
Augie
Tristan
Stefan
Damien
Declan
Silas
Tate
Tatum
Callum
Kieran

You have to stand firm on Roger

How about

Robert nn Robbie
Marcus
Matthias or Matthew nn Matt
Michael
Justin
Corin
Patrick
Laurence
Alistair
Duncan
Kester (Scottish form of Christopher)
Silas
Saul
Stellan
Struan
Franklin nn Frank
Tobias nn Toby
Barnabas or Barnaby nn Barney
Zachary or Zachariah nn Zach
Ernest nn Ernie
Arnold nn Arnie
Rufus
Rafe
Rohan
Jethro
Joss
John
Jonathan
Gideon

Can you share one of your other kids names? Or names you think are similar to theirs - that would help with suggestions

I wouldn't want to go with Roger either. Robert is better.

Martin is ok.

Or
Benedict
Dominic
Nicholas
Joseph
Michael
Tristan

I love Austin and Martin.

Vaughn
Joseph
Levi

Robin
Christian
Fabian
Ben
Otto

I really liked Alec but the ‘c’ sound at the end didn’t go with his surname: Also Robin and Laurie.

Alan
Anton/Ant(h)ony
Brendan
Caleb
Emmett
Eric
Evan
Everett
Gregor/Gregory
Hugh
Jacob
Jasper
Jeremy
Lachlan
Owen
Walter

Barnaby
Stanley
Wilfred
Noah
Walter
Christopher (nm Kit)
Edward (nm Teddy)
Joseph
Frederick

Justin
Lucas
Adrian

Sebastian is lovely.

Jude
Guy
Gabriel
Theodore

Fwiw my grandson's name is on your list of 'really popular' names and he very rarely meets another little boy with his name. When he does it's actually really sweet that they have the same name.

If you like a name I wouldn't worry about how popular it is